I’ve been through enough breakups to know.. there must be something going on with him he’s not telling you. Maybe he met someone else. Tbh that was my first thought. He’s trying to ease out of it because he’s not sure of the whole situation yet. That’s why people gradually lose interest in one person, because they gain interest in another person. This has happened to me in the past. But the bottom line is.. I guarantee.. like absolutely guarantee you.. this is not your fault or your doing. Whatever reasons he gives you that place blame on you are just so he can save his own ass. I’m telling you. It doesn’t feel like it now, but you’re probably actually dodging a bullet. He’s probably not the great guy you thought he was. I’m sorry you have to go through this, it’s totally not fair. But keep your head held high and do you. He is doing him. Trust that. And you do the same. Things will get better. If he suddenly wants to make it work again, fair warning.. whatever else he had going on didn’t work and he became afraid of being alone. I’m sure some redditers would agree with my analysis because they’ve also been there, done that. If it helps at all, I’m in a relationship with the best dude now, after dating men that ended up being douches like this dude. I’m sorry that he’s not living up to what you deserve. Best of luck to you. There are actually good dudes out there who will love you for exactly who you are, and will do it genuinely. 🍀 Again, don’t think for one moment that it’s you. It’s absolutely not. It’s all him.
whatamievendoingbroo t1_iujagpz wrote
Reply to My partner of 5 years wants to move out but not break-up... I feel so defeated. by [deleted]
I’ve been through enough breakups to know.. there must be something going on with him he’s not telling you. Maybe he met someone else. Tbh that was my first thought. He’s trying to ease out of it because he’s not sure of the whole situation yet. That’s why people gradually lose interest in one person, because they gain interest in another person. This has happened to me in the past. But the bottom line is.. I guarantee.. like absolutely guarantee you.. this is not your fault or your doing. Whatever reasons he gives you that place blame on you are just so he can save his own ass. I’m telling you. It doesn’t feel like it now, but you’re probably actually dodging a bullet. He’s probably not the great guy you thought he was. I’m sorry you have to go through this, it’s totally not fair. But keep your head held high and do you. He is doing him. Trust that. And you do the same. Things will get better. If he suddenly wants to make it work again, fair warning.. whatever else he had going on didn’t work and he became afraid of being alone. I’m sure some redditers would agree with my analysis because they’ve also been there, done that. If it helps at all, I’m in a relationship with the best dude now, after dating men that ended up being douches like this dude. I’m sorry that he’s not living up to what you deserve. Best of luck to you. There are actually good dudes out there who will love you for exactly who you are, and will do it genuinely. 🍀 Again, don’t think for one moment that it’s you. It’s absolutely not. It’s all him.