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throwaway_nowgoaway t1_iy4mnc2 wrote

Reply to TIFU: I may have given myself tinnitus (ringing in ear) by AweProfit

You may want to pop over to r/energywork and r/reiki if you enjoy healing meditations.

I have tinnitus too. Mostly in right ear. It’s annoying as hell. Wish I had an easy solution but I don’t :/

All I can say is that with illnesses and ailments in general, it’s normal to be anxious and grieve about it at first, but over time we get used to it and it just becomes a part of us. All part of the process.

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throwaway_nowgoaway t1_iy2oy4u wrote

Reply to TIFU by having anal with a furry by Responsible-Ad4081

Yo- so this was a rollercoaster but I think there are actually a LOT of lessons you can learn from this experience. Easier said than done but I think setting boundaries and not people pleasing is one of them. People can see if you have confidence and will treat you accordingly. The rest of your social interactions in HS can be good practice for not giving AF. Thankfully you won’t have to see these people btw.

I think you are very mature for knowing what your kink is and accepting it as a part of you instead of trying to change it. Definitely not my thing but I have my own. Best of luck when it comes to dealing with your mom.

Also, I found cutting out dairy really helped with my acne at your age- something worth looking into maybe.

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throwaway_nowgoaway t1_ixron6t wrote

Reply to TIFU by writing a racist text by Karpfen10

You are entitled to your opinion, and as a gay man I wish our society was more open to hearing the opinions of others without judgement (on any topic, including this one). I believe it’s better for people to have uncomfortable conversations with mutual respect rather than adopting an “us vs. them” mentality.

That being said, I encourage you to ask yourself why seeing people wearing pride flags makes you so angry. Generally, I find that when someone else’s behavior angers me, it’s usually because they are reminding me of something I don’t like within myself. It’s a projection. We are all mirrors for each other. I am not one of those people who think all people with homophobic thoughts are gay, that’s not what I’m saying. I’m just encouraging you to ask yourself what specifically is bothering you about them. Perhaps there’s a part of you that is jealous of the confidence. Or perhaps what you seem to be perceiving as an annoying need for validation from these people is triggering memories of your own needs not being met as a kid. And so on. IDK. These are just the types of questions I ask myself when someone else’s behavior bothers me.

And I’m not saying your viewpoint has no validity at all. Sometimes I feel like the LGBT movement has turned into a parody of what it once was, and there’s a lot of judgement within the community as well. But I understand the history of oppression of LGBT people which led to the movement, and how our deteriorating ability as a society to try to find common ground has led to both LGBT supporters and opponents to dig in their heels.

The fact that you posted this shows that you’re trying to understand yourself and your actions in the context of the situation, and whether there is room to improve. Honestly I don’t think the teacher is being helpful by threatening to essentially punish or shame whoever wrote the thing. You should feel safe to speak your mind, and you should also be open to new perspectives.

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throwaway_nowgoaway t1_itae0pm wrote

Reply to TIFU by telling my gf I would murder her. by Choice-Vegetable738

I applaud you for recognizing that this is inappropriate and finding a venue to talk about it. This is not a healthy level of rage to hold inside, and you were wrong to treat your girlfriend that way. Do you feel bad? If so, good, you should.

You’re young. I imagine you’ve been through some shit to treat someone this way. You deserve compassion, and there’s nothing shameful about getting help. You should however feel guilty if you choose not to talk to someone about this. At your age you can definitely work through this stuff. It won’t be easy and you’ll have to let yourself feel your pain. But you can do it.

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throwaway_nowgoaway t1_ita6l4v wrote

Reply to comment by Poggers0g in TIFU by getting nicotine sick with friends by Poggers0g

Look, I’m not gonna judge you for using nicotine, I still do.

But imma tell you right now, if the people you’re hanging with think it’s normal to be violent towards somebody just because you’re upset at them, you don’t need to be spending time with them. You’re better than that.

People like that are psychological children who’s feel so insecure they feel the need to violently assert themselves whenever they perceive “disrespect”. People like that end up in prison or dead. Emotionally mature individuals express how they feel with words.

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