At least you know why they're not supportive of your marriage

>EDIT: his family knows about our kid. they’ve known before marriage was even thought of.

The question is if they knew you lied to your husband about it.

Or if they know that kid isn't even his in the first place.

Because

1. You're both young
2. At least one of you is still going through education
3. You're both unlikely to support yourselves
4. You've lied to your partner

To say that your parents are jealous is a very weird statement, because at one point they loved each other and had you. So to say that they know nothing about love when you yourself had just been married recently is a hypocritical statement to make.

You have a very skewed perception because your parents have more experience and knowledge than you who has been married for less than a year and had a kid at 18-19.

You're not prepared, and the fact that you lied to your husband because you wanted love and support shows how unprepared you are. And shows how right your parents were.

As harsh as this sounds

You deceived your current partner because you wanted love, when that deception may very well be the reason why he feels trapped in this relationship. He knows you rely on him, especially with a kid. So you've basically burdened him with responsibility at 18 while he's still going to university/school with no approval from his parents. There's a strong likelihood that if his friends and family didn't know about the marriage, they also don't know about the kid.

Thing is, if you're willing to lie at that level, your husband is probably thinking what else have you lied about that you haven't told him.

Edit: just realized, one of the reasons why he hasn't told anyone about the marriage is the fact that you have a kid. And if they ever find out that you lied to him about the kid being his, there's even more justification on why you shouldn't be married in their eyes. Basically, he's lying and sacrificing himself to protect you, because you lied and rushed things.

I mean

If I was in a relationship with someone, and they told me the child is mine, but proceeded to lie about it, I'm not going to let that down.

You lied to him for what reason? So that he can stay committed to you?

Of course he's not fine, the fact that you made him believe the kid was his but turns out it was the child of your previous lover weighs heavily in his mind. He's telling you he's fine with it to reassure you, but in reality it's gnawing at him.

I can already feel some level of regret from the husband just by reading this because he never disclosed that he's married to anyone

Probably sacrificing his own happiness to keep OP happy, and we all know how well that goes

I sacrificed my own happiness in my previous relationship, and it ended with a horrendous break up because she thought I didn't do enough for her

>they say we rushed into it to quick, but we decided not to listen to them and now we are in love and married.

And they're right about that

Are you truly prepared and planned for the future? Because marriage isn't something that's just a thing you do so early in a relationship, it's a commitment.