I just want you to know, that it is okay to put yourself first. No relationship is worth screwing your mental health over for. If he doesn’t budge, tell him you won’t either and end it at that. You simply have a boundary that is being crossed and he is ignoring it, defending against it, even.

It’s one thing to be insecure about him having female friends which clearly seems to not be the case here, but it is definitely not a good sign if he is willing to defend her against your very valid concern without even taking it into consideration.

I am sorry you went through all of that. Being cheated on is a very hard thing to emotionally recover from. I wish you the best, OP❤️

If he is willing to prioritize someone else over you, his girlfriend and someone he has known for much longer, then it is something to be worried about.

Given that this relationship is only a month old, do you believe that the situation is going to get any better? If your bf doesn’t even try to listen to your perspective over something like this, don’t count on him respecting your thoughts/feelings/opinions later on.

I don’t want to jump the gun and say leave him, but just know that if your gut is telling you something is wrong, you should probably listen. Especially if it wasn’t wrong before, might I add.