I say this with kindness, but it sounds like you are looking to him to “fix” you when you say “could you just tell me how can I make this work?”. The answer doesn’t lie with him. It lies with you. I think you could honestly benefit from therapy to work through your feelings of abandonment. That’s on you to resolve, not him or anyone else. That would put him or any future partner in a really unfair position and would probably set up even more of a codependent/clinging relationship.
redditer6877 t1_jaduaxz wrote
Reply to 22F/27M Abandonment issue made him escapes from me. Gonna see him tonight need advice from people! by UCCUTE
I say this with kindness, but it sounds like you are looking to him to “fix” you when you say “could you just tell me how can I make this work?”. The answer doesn’t lie with him. It lies with you. I think you could honestly benefit from therapy to work through your feelings of abandonment. That’s on you to resolve, not him or anyone else. That would put him or any future partner in a really unfair position and would probably set up even more of a codependent/clinging relationship.