Thank you for this perspective! I too look at it that I have the flexible job and he has the higher earning job.

I mean I make that wage for 8 hours per day and any time over that is paid a 1.5x my wage. My base wage is as stated above.

He thinks I could make more money.

This is my feeling, I’m comfortable where I am right now and not looking for more responsibility at the moment.

Thank you!! This is my plan.

I am the wife, we both had in person jobs in NYC, but in 2018 my husband’s company asked if anyone wanted to go remote. He had been there for 11 years and everything he does is computer based. He volunteered (we were looking to get out of the city, our daughter was 9mo old then). When I told my small company I was leaving because we were moving several states away the owner asked if I wanted to work remotely. That was almost 5 years ago.

My husband works in e-learning/training for a large hospital group, I wear many hats for a small lighting manufacturing company. We both have niche careers.

This was very helpful, thank you! I think you are right, it never feels like enough. We took our first family vacation this year a 1.5 hour drive away for 3 days, we budgeted for it but it was still more than I planned on! We have savings goals in Mint to get to a 6mo emergency fund, retirement, house renovations and saving for college for all 3 kids. It just never feels like enough. And our food budget has increased with inflation this year.

We have a small 1,789 sf home with 1.5 bathrooms and 3 bedrooms. 2 bedrooms are very small. We do not have enough room for an au pair, we did look into it.

My daughter is in Kindergarten and my twin boys are in preschool. A nanny is $20-25 per hour here.

I wish! I used to freelance when we had just 1 kid, that is how I paid off my student loans and we saved to purchase a home. But right now with 3 young kids and a full time job I don’t have extra bandwidth to take something else on.

No, he makes 1.85 what I make not including overtime or profit sharing.

He makes $140k as of mid October 2022. Prior to that he made $125.

We do budget, meticulously. I don’t follow your point that my spouse should take the kids to appointments and I should do more childcare duties? The kids are in full time daycare and before/aftercare. That is about $3,100/mo.

In 2021 we made $180 gross. We are not even close to $250k this year. The market adjustment occurred in Oct, so it’s only been 2.5 months of that.

Likely we will be around $210 gross for 2022.

This is what I think too. And making even $20k more isn’t worth loosing that flexibility to me, at least at this stage of my life.

Very true! I am considering looking once they are all in school. I love the flexibility.

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