orangedrinkmcdonalds

orangedrinkmcdonalds t1_j91kyio wrote

I agree with seeking out middle aged women, sitting in the aisle, ignoring, speaking up loudly, when needed, etc. Always employ those strategies first.

That said, a lot of people (guys, younger women) just don’t want to involve themselves and I’ve found a few phrases to deflect/be helpful - only after all other strategies have failed.

If complementing your smile/eyes: “thank you that’s so sweet, sir (use the most formal polite address you can - you want them to live up to it) that made my day, sir. My mom also loves it”.

Guys who do this want to see if you’ll engage with what they think is an above board complement - flatter their ego by responding, by using Sir they get that you are not going to engage and by bringing your mother into it you are signaling that there is zero chance this approach will work. If you don’t engage they get mad because they tried what they thought was a respectful approach.

If complementing another body part or saying something sexual in English: do not engage. RBF and fight your way out if needed. No exceptions.

If saying something sexual in another language with their friends around: learn how to say “do you speak to your mother/sister/daughter with that same mouth” in a variety of languages and then shake your head. Get up and change seats to get further away - leave as soon as safe. When I lived in Italy this was definitely incredibly effective.

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orangedrinkmcdonalds t1_j22ja54 wrote

Driving slower than traffic while sitting in the passing lane is incredibly dangerous. It then requires people to pass on the right, which means that passing and stagnating cars intermingle. Few things are more dangerous on a functioning roadway than cars going different speeds in the same lane. This is why passing lanes were established.

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orangedrinkmcdonalds t1_j1q414r wrote

I use it every day to commute and the only accidents Ive seen are 1) folks merging on (2nd car rear ending the one in front - happens a lot at the P st NB entrance); 2) people ignoring the barriers and going the wrong way during rush hour and 3) fender benders as folks try to cut it at the last minute for the Beach Drive exit NB.

I agree that some folks speed but I also see a lot of folks just chilling at 25 in the passing lane, which imo is equally dangerous.

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