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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j9ikpld wrote

Also,

We have different everything. Voices (like faces) are noticeable because we use them as a primary means for communication within our group, and our brains have evolved to zone in on the differences nonchalantly because it was a matter of life and death back then. Nothing about two people is exactly the same, things may be very similar. Most of these things go unnoticed, since they didn’t play as significant a role in our evolutionary history.

I imagine a dog asking on doggedit: “why do humans all have different smell?”

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j9hcdse wrote

> The problem is that the self is itself an illusion,

As someone who firmly believes in the same notion, it is a pretty wild thing to just assert it as a known fact. Thousands of years have passed debating this very concept, and the roots of consciousness still evade us to this day.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m on the “self is an illusion” team, and being born in the land of the Buddha, we’ve had some interesting variations of this notion. But it isn’t established knowledge. If it were the question of “will” would dissolve away entirely.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j1n6ly6 wrote

Yeah but kudos to the young kid for being clear about it instead of using it to brag like most of us would at her age.

Also, while it is true that anyone could have done it, she actually took the initiative and did it, while most kids her age haven’t done something like this. She took an interest, she went through the grind, she remained humble after the fact. That’s a kid raised well.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j1jpg87 wrote

> we shouldn't be looking backwards into historical religious beliefs for progress.

Looking back towards religious motivations to imbibe progressive outlooks works to some extent with religious people on the fence. It makes things relatable to religious folks, and makes them open up to the new way of looking at things rather than defensively close their outlook and feel persecuted.

Heteronormative stance is wrong by today’s western standards where the primary goal of a relationship is emotional fulfillment of the couple, but had a more rational basis in the past (and some societies today) with most cultures seeing marriage as a union between two people for practical purposes like progeny, strategic alliance, asset allocation and preservation etc, with “love” being secondary motivation at best. This is exemplified by how “union by love” are seen as pure, idealistic inspirations in middle eastern and some Asian (not East Asian specifically, geographically Asian) cultures because these types of relationships weren’t commonplace and hence had many metaphors and allegories attributed to them.

Goes without saying, I’m not saying any of the above “wrong” things are actually correct. We have evolved to see the flaws in those types of thinking, which is great.

One can dismiss 99.9999% of historical content because it doesn’t fit the modern progressive standards. But a stable progressive society isn’t built in isolation, we need inspirations and connections to our cumulative past to justify our reasons for being better today. You and I might not need this, but many people do.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j178z80 wrote

This comment needs to be stickied in every post that has any sort of quote in it.

No single line, paragraph, page or even book will hold the secret to all of life. Quotes are meant to provoke thought not blindly be applied to life situations and then complain why it isn’t working. If you read a quote and your mind immediately goes to find use cases where the quote fails, you’re doing quotes wrong. Sure there is some horrible advice out there written in beautiful fonts, but this post isn’t one of them.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_j178f15 wrote

It is a 3 line quote. No 3 line quote is ever meant to be global advice applicable to every situation. Even the best quotes you read online will have limited use cases and completely fall apart in certain scenarios.

It’s an inspirational sentence meant to be applied to any applicable situation after putting in some thought. If I mug a person after listening to this quote, the blame is on me not the author.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_ixnruve wrote

The one thing I thank on thanksgiving is having a decent family. I had to grow up a lot before realizing that it isn’t the norm. My family isn’t perfect but I’m happy I have them, they’re good peeps. I hope everyone with bad families manages to break the cycle and raise a healthy family of their own, best wishes to you!!

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_iusrvg2 wrote

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Anyone who is trained to believe that any culture is totally evil with no redeeming qualities is a total idiot. Chinese culture is what, 5000 years old or so? A lot happens over that time, good and bad things. Lao Tzu is far from Chinese propaganda, he is a tool to rid yourself off your own propaganda, whatever that may be.

The “woke seemingly philosophically inclined hipster” kids are showing more empathy and nuance in their thinking than people of the same age did say 10 or 20 years ago. For every tidepod eating kid there may as well be a handful more who want to be the change and make the world a better place, kids who are curing ancestral abuse normalized as being “tough”, kids who are being more responsible adults than adults who have social media inspired blinders of hate and ignorance.

Even as far as 2500 years ago we have had quotes lamenting at the “kids these days”. The sentiment is stale, and adds nothing to the conversation anymore.

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notenoughroomtofitmy t1_iuk987p wrote

Lol, showed this comment to my very Indian wife, she says it has major white knight energy. Glad I’m not the only one.

My wife and I both appreciate your concern for our women, and believe with all our heart that you extend this concern for all women. If you’re American, we hope you’re fighting as strongly against the massive war against female autonomy and self-agency your country is waging on in its women in the name of conservatism. Hell, there are plenty of articles online demanding to know why Virginity Tests happen in the US. I hope you’re as vocal about this, my fellow ally of women.

India took a good step here. The post is supposed to be uplifting. God forbid anyone try to improve, right? Only cuz you have a few decades headstart over treating half your population better. Truth is none of us can ever claim to deserve our wonderful women, but they gotta live here among us, and we gotta fight to make this world better for them, one step at a time.

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