niko4ever

niko4ever t1_j6hd7y1 wrote

Therapy can help you figure out if there are personal reasons for why you aren't achieving your goals, and how to fix that

It can't tell you what your goals should be, because that's unique for everyone

It also can't help you change things that are outside your control, only to accept them

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niko4ever t1_j6dbq1p wrote

So it's your job to pay for groceries?

I know a lot of couples that have completely separate finances, but not any with kids. Especially when one works more or earns more. I guess there's no reason it couldn't be done though.

But it's perfectly normal to want to hold things over his head when he's holding other things over yours.

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niko4ever t1_j6d7xcp wrote

>At times he has had to buy groceries and pay for my car payment and such when I don’t get my hours at work. He’s held that over my head many times

You raise a child together but have separate finances? Yeah no wonder it's causing tension between you. Why do you have separate groceries of all things?

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