Can't control how you feel so you just gotta feel it sometimes. Sorry to hear you're going through similar

Just don't chase people.

If they're running away you should believe what they're trying to say to you and keep believing it even if they come back

But beliefs aren't real either

neither is optimism if were splitting hairs

As a guy that plays rpgs this is some dangerous thinking for real life

yes taking my time usually changes the problem entirely