I still think the term "emotional cheating" is a very bad term and has the (harmful) connotation that sharing emotions is something you do with almost exclusively one person.

That's bad for both people - the sharer, because it limits the range of emotions they may be willing to share - and the sharee, because they are now exclusively burden with the emotional labor of the their partner.

TLDR the term is a bad term, and potentially reinforces unhealthy emotional management.

>with another specific person that would leave the partner feeling uncomfortable

This applies to all close relationships, no matter the category: romantic, friend, family, business, etc. It's a betrayal of trust not "emotional cheating".

Still not sold on the idea of "emotional cheating"

>There is no need to

Tell me you are in short (< 5 years) relationship without telling me you are in short relationship.

You've never expressed frustration about anything about your partner to a friend?

I don't think you're going to give the information I seek from you (which emotions are banned from sharing).

So have a great day. And maintain friendships outside your partner. It's not healthy to be solely attached to one person. And potentially dangerous.

That's not how it works. Sharing frustrations is not talking shit.

You've never told a friend how your partner leaves their socks on the floor? How they never fold the laundry? etc?

It's a pretty common and basic thing to do. You've expressed to your partner you'd like them to fold the laundry when it's done, etc. and they continue to fail to do it. Instead of bottling your emotions, you share them before they build up.

Yes, I have a serious relationship. And I share my emotions with a number of people. If I'm frustrated with my partner, I share that frustration with friends.

But from this thread, I'm gathering that friends are a form of "emotional cheating".

There is information that is only for partners (the same is true for familial and friendship relationships too), but emotions? Emotions ≠ information.

Which emotions should I not be sharing?

So which emotions are those? Can you give a specific example.

Which emotions?

I haven't even met anyone online. But, admittedly, I am a weirdo.

Which emotions are those though? Sadness? Loss? Grief? Happiness? Success?

I think this is bad message for people (and men in particular) if you are only allowed to share certain emotions with a single person. Building more emotional connections is good for everybody.

poor definition of emotional cheating. Should be called romantic cheating.

Maybe. But managers get paid shit. Most managers are lucky to get more than $25/hr. With even keeping 10% tips (bad tips minus tipouts), servers only need to sell $250 in sales per hour to make that without any base pay.

Servers would make much less money if "the owners paid them". It would become a job someone would only do in absolute desperation rather than by choice. Max pay most places (if tips were eliminated) would be $12/hr.

Tips are just commission set by the customer.

Managers make less than servers....because of tips.

Managers make less than servers....because of tips.