ldsgirl2022
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dr5k7 wrote
Reply to comment by GanderGarden in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
Yes we are interested in the very least spending more time together. That is easy. My questions are then what? Why are we sending time together anyway ? A lot of people say that guys use their mission to find a wife, especially if they grew close to a certain lady. That lady would be me, but I always thought that a younger guy would never be good enough.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dq9l3 wrote
Reply to comment by GanderGarden in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
Can friends date though? Meaning we can be friends but do couple things like go to dinner, see a movie, do fun activities together, comfort and support each other, and whatever else we feel like doing together. People never gave us weird looks because I look really young and he presents as older. He couldn't believe me when I told him my age and would say I look so pretty, youthful, and his age anytime I reminded him of my life experiences.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dpin3 wrote
Reply to comment by GanderGarden in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
Yes we are, weirdly we discussed how important that is because we have a shared faith. We really bonded over that.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dp40f wrote
Reply to comment by GanderGarden in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
Yes we are both focusing on career and education, I am just at a further stage than him while he just finished his first internship. When you say it's not a problem, do you mean being in each other's lives or us having feelings for each other ?
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dowrs wrote
Reply to comment by BeaArt78 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
At first I did not want to but he grew on me. Yes I tried those things but he was persistent. I do not usually connect with younger guys but his values are the same as mine because he is mature. It is ageist to say that he can't be in my life because he is younger. When he asks me to be his girlfriend is when I should tell him my preference.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dok8h wrote
Reply to comment by BeaArt78 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
I am not expecting anything from him but it is hard to deal with him telling me how much he loves me. It is like he wants me to fall for him. I did not ask him to be in my life and he made sure to not only join it, but be present and stay in it. He knows I prefer older/same age men and I would see how crushed he would be whenever I would ignore his flirting. He made it clear that he is not going anywhere. Yes we are friends with a bond, so I should be accepting of him since he is a younger guy that wants to be around older people. When I was his age I constantly found men in their 30s to be better, but they would not want to spend any time with me outside of trying to get in my pants. It would make me feel terrible so I don't want to repeat that with him. He loves me despite the age gap. I wanted advice on how to deal with the huge gap in age, not kicking him out of my life because he didn't meet an age requirement.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dnrj4 wrote
When we first met, we spent a good deal of time together but he got me to notice him as being special when he would constantly mention him and I have the same birthday. It was like he wanted me to know we have a connection, and to not forget it. I think it is a fun connection but it flew over my head that he thought about that and the meaning of that. Moments like that show his maturity.
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2dnbif wrote
Reply to comment by BeaArt78 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
He won't leave me alone. He wouldn't since the first moment he laid eyes on me. I thought he was too young to be in my life but he sure didn't think he was too young to be in my life. He didn't like when I would write him off like that and worked hard to show me that he is different. He felt it was just a number, but he was very persistent in being in my life. He also is very mature. Most men who serve a mission mature fast because of the lifestyle they live for those two years. Now that he's in my life it would be shallow to stop talking to him when I already knew he was younger and I already know him so why suddenly judge him over something that doesn't even define him. He presents and behaves as if he is my age.
Submitted by ldsgirl2022 t3_zzu7cr in relationship_advice
ldsgirl2022 OP t1_j2drg2k wrote
Reply to comment by BeaArt78 in (31F) (21M) Mutual Attraction? Dealing with a Major Crush On My Guy Friend by ldsgirl2022
He validated it not me. He would tell me it's just a number whenever I would try to write him off or hint that I want to friend zone him because he is younger. Him being younger makes things harder, but he enjoys that I am older. I don't think it is wrong, I just think he shouldn't be flirting with me.