I couldn’t finish reading it, but didn’t trust him, you invaded his privacy by first interrogating him about his viewing preferences, then later investigated confirming the funny feeling-red flags. Snooping on the phone was stage two of violating his privacy… I wouldn’t worry about what he thinks of you or if he finds out - there’s nothing to salvage - there was no trust. Best to move on. Also, you’re loaning money to someone who is spending it on something other than essentials, this isn’t a financially sustainable living arrangement.
iCoral t1_j8w5yj8 wrote
Reply to TIFU i crossed boundaries and betrayed his trust by going through his phone and found something and i cant just leave him by [deleted]
I couldn’t finish reading it, but didn’t trust him, you invaded his privacy by first interrogating him about his viewing preferences, then later investigated confirming the funny feeling-red flags. Snooping on the phone was stage two of violating his privacy… I wouldn’t worry about what he thinks of you or if he finds out - there’s nothing to salvage - there was no trust. Best to move on. Also, you’re loaning money to someone who is spending it on something other than essentials, this isn’t a financially sustainable living arrangement.