hungrydruid

hungrydruid t1_j498scj wrote

Saaame.

I have a trick with this though, oftentimes my issue is just starting and not dreading the chore. So I say to myself, 'okay, this is too much for right now. This is going to be future-me's problem... so what's one quick thing I can do to make it easier for future me?' and then I do a little chunk of it which not only reminds me to finish it later, but since I've already started it's magically easier to wrap my head around it. =)

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hungrydruid t1_iy9jpx7 wrote

Reply to comment by ksknksk in [image]Do your best by thirtyVerb

Yeah, my parents used to say this when I was younger (while also teasing me if I got less than 100%) and it just really messed me up for a long time. Therapy's helped a lot but it's still something I struggle with.

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hungrydruid t1_iy8uhw8 wrote

Reply to comment by waterwings91 in [image]Do your best by thirtyVerb

But this is kind of my point, I cannot give 100% in different forms in all things. It's just way too much expectations and work, and my brain doesn't differentiate different forms very well anyway. It's been a learning process to reframe my thinking as such.

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hungrydruid t1_iy7jfsb wrote

As a recovering perfectionist, I hate this quote. My brain assumes that if one time I did 100% perfect worthy work, that well 'that is my best' and so literally any effort that's not 100% is bullshit worthless.

It's been really hard to retrain my brain and my thought patterns that it's okay to not get 100% on things and that there are other factors that affect my life... stress, sleep, family and friends, etc. that mean that my best will vary from day to day. And that's it's also okay to reserve my effort and my energy for the things that really matter, and that it's also okay to not give my best for those things that don't. Done is better than perfect.

(excuse the rant it's 4:30am yay Dragonflight)

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