From your story's perspective, the thing you are the most afraid of is losing him.
If you don't be honest about your feelings, you WILL lose him. Even if his current behavior is just a phase, it is mentally and emotionally taxing to continually put your heart into someone who is not heing real, which is the situation that you're putting him in right now. You'll inevitably lose him.
If you are honest, you may, maybe, lose him. You also maybe won't lose him, which would be awesome. And you'll know if he likes you for who you truly are, even the hidden side you've been keeping from him.
So choice one is a guaranteed loss and choice two at least has some chance of things going well. I know it's a hard choice, but from a practical perspective, if you really, really want him, then please, fight for him like you've never fought before. I'm rooting for you!
gekigarion t1_ixl9ndk wrote
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From your story's perspective, the thing you are the most afraid of is losing him.
If you don't be honest about your feelings, you WILL lose him. Even if his current behavior is just a phase, it is mentally and emotionally taxing to continually put your heart into someone who is not heing real, which is the situation that you're putting him in right now. You'll inevitably lose him.
If you are honest, you may, maybe, lose him. You also maybe won't lose him, which would be awesome. And you'll know if he likes you for who you truly are, even the hidden side you've been keeping from him.
So choice one is a guaranteed loss and choice two at least has some chance of things going well. I know it's a hard choice, but from a practical perspective, if you really, really want him, then please, fight for him like you've never fought before. I'm rooting for you!