We have an agreement that I won't be following some strict diet, which is almost obligatory if you want to have abs. So we have this kind of status quo that as long as I only workout and not try to look all ripped and bodybuilder like, it's fine.

Nah. She is a great person and i am looking forward to marry her. It's just she preffers a dad body over muscular physique. And although she liked me better before, she is fine with my current form. Nobody's perfect.

Well i am quite the opposite. Started working out during Covid, dropped 10 kg, got not this muscular, but quite nice body. And my girl says it's gross i have raised veins on arms and that abs are a red flag and stuff like that. So I am finally happy with my body and found a new hobby, but i look worse to her (nothing serious, we are getting married this year, but it hurts).