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dedoubt t1_je9pnmj wrote

As someone else commented, the family will always have access to the plot. Of course it could make selling the property more difficult, because the buyer cannot use or develop the burial area, and they have to allow family access to the graves permanently. The burial plot can't be more than 1/4 acre, so it's probably not that big of a deal in most cases.

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dedoubt t1_j5ak2rp wrote

>Building new housing doesn’t help now. It helps 15 years from now. If there was adequate construction 15 years ago rent wouldn’t be as crazy as it is today.

I totally get that, but in addition to building more housing, stopping the rent prices hikes would help immediately. There is no reason that the apartment I used to rent 5 years ago for $600 should be $1200+ now, except that property management places can get more profit.

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dedoubt t1_j5a7kqc wrote

>not building enough homes and apartments only made the homeless crisis worse.

I'm sure that's part of it but from the perspective of someone who has had unstable housing for years, lived with friends/relatives/in my car/dilapidated trailers & cabins just to have shelter, the real issue is that rent prices are fucking out of control. I simply could not afford to pay rent in most places, and definitely couldn't afford to pay rent plus save money for first/last/deposit to move elsewhere. Edit- meant to say that I technically have stable housing now because I got a small inheritance after my sister died, so I was able to buy some off grid land with a decrepit trailer on it, but it's going to take a lot of work to make it livable in winters, so I'm still shuttling around to various places. (Planning to build a cabin, but that'll take time.)

One place I rented in 2018 increased rent from $600 to $900 on the shitty apartments in the building in one year, increasing every time a tenant moved out. Last I checked, those apartments were $1200+. The building didn't magically become less shitty over the course of a few years, they badly paint the place occasionally, but everything is old, paint peeling and barely functional.

Having new places built wouldn't have helped me, because new buildings generally charge even more for rent.

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dedoubt t1_j2f5cpq wrote

Reply to comment by MaineBlonde in Feel safe by Kazbob48

>Nah, just putting you down. Most Maine women aren't stupid enough to let strangers in their car. But good luck with all that.

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Wow, you're super nice. Thanks so much for making the world a better place!

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dedoubt t1_j2dz4do wrote

Reply to comment by MaineBlonde in Feel safe by Kazbob48

>Make yourself an easy mark,

That's just a gross thing to say.

You're so sure you're right, you've made a bunch of assumptions and insulted me repeatedly. Try to understand that people have different ways of living their lives, and being different from you isn't being wrong.

>but please don't encourage other women to do so.

Nothing I wrote is encouraging other women to do the same. I'm talking about my life, my experiences and using my judgement in situations. I have many female friends who go through life the same way I do and they also have no problems.

I'm sorry you feel so much fear in your day to day life, but most people are good and I'm going to continue helping my fellow humans.

>And im sorry you were abused, but that won't save you either it someone wants to hurt you now.

??? Eeeww. Who said anything about the abuse I went through "saving" me in any way? I mentioned it to point out that even though I have good reason not to trust people, I still am able to recognize that most people are not a threat to me.

>I get a lot of "sassy Maine woman" vibes out of a lot of these posts

What a shitty way to put down the women of Maine.

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dedoubt t1_j2ciss1 wrote

Reply to comment by 010kindsofpeople in Feel safe by Kazbob48

You have house keys???

I always have to remind myself to lock my car when I visit family in NH. Even in their small town, my car would be empty by morning.

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dedoubt t1_j2chiq1 wrote

Reply to comment by MaineBlonde in Feel safe by Kazbob48

I'm 52 years old, I've lived all over the place and have helped a lot of people. Please don't make it sound like it's never safe for women to use their best judgement about whether they should help someone in need. (Or accept help when it's needed.)

And I'm coming from the perspective of someone who was brutally abused growing up, but I still choose to believe most people are good. I'm also not an idiot, I don't endanger myself. Women are capable of taking care of themselves and don't need to go through their lives feeling like potential victims. That's some bad juju to draw to themselves.

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dedoubt t1_j2c139g wrote

Reply to comment by siebzy in Feel safe by Kazbob48

>I would have stopped in every single one.

Yeah, I have stopped to help people in a bunch of states, even as a woman alone. Most people are decent humans.

Once I stopped to pick up a hitchhiker near the narrows bridge. Big bushy beard, didn't know him, but I could tell he was super young and if it was one of my kids I would hope somebody would stop. He got to the door and we both did a cartoonish double take because he was a kid I had let live with me years before when he was kicked out of his house as a teen (he didn't have a beard then ha ha).

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dedoubt t1_j1wsl67 wrote

Mountaintop Removal Mining: Digging Into Community Health Concerns

May not be the same type of mining that could happen in Maine, but all mining can wreck the environment. In addition to wrecking the mountains, it leaves toxic pools poised to drown towns below them when they fail.

In general I wouldn't think of myself as a NIMBY either, but I moved to Maine in '91 in large part because it wasn't being turned into a mining wasteland, or being paved over with suburbs. Really hope it doesn't happen.

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dedoubt t1_j18mfkr wrote

>45% of the population

It's really not almost half of our total population, if you take into account how few people voted (the US population is about 330 million, and only 66% of the 240 million eligible actually voted) and how many of those voted republican (chump got 74,223,975 votes).

So.... About 25% of the population actually voted republican in 2020. They're just very loud about their views. I guess there are people who are MAGAs who didn't vote, so there might be more than 25% of the population who lean that way, but I really don't think almost half the country does.

Note - I'm extremely tired so my numbers might be off, but that's the number I keep running across.

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