childofcraigslist

childofcraigslist t1_iujooua wrote

> I valued the stability and mentorship my partners had from their life experience.

Not to "therapize," but you're basically trying to recreate the sense of emotional safety you didn't get in your childhood. This isn't at all uncommon for people who grow up with neglectful parents; it creates a void and something has to fill it.

I definitely think therapy is the way to go here. It sounds like these relationships haven't been too damaging so far, but every time you get involved with a much older man you're gambling on him not being the type to take advantage of this craving for stability and guidance to control you.

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childofcraigslist t1_iujnjzh wrote

Yes I did. From my comment defending him from someone calling him gross:

> He literally walked away after she said thank you.

> I hate street harassment to my very core, but a simple compliment with no expectation of anything further is not harassment or flirting.

If women always think you're creepy, you're the common denominator.

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childofcraigslist t1_iujhgpw wrote

I would frame it as it being important that you both love the name you choose for your child. He had no objections to the name you chose, so it's not the same situation as this. I assume if you'd wanted to name your child Pigpen because you loved the Charlie Brown character, he'd have objected to that. Obviously Madoka is not a derogatory name, but it is a name you dislike and both parents should have veto power because it's not great for the child to be named something that has negative feelings attached for one parent.

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childofcraigslist t1_iujgvwu wrote

Probably a large volume of men consistently harassing her over the course of a lifetime since she was like 13, which is around the age most women report first getting catcalled.

If men want to point the finger at someone, blame creepy men who ruin it for everyone else, not women who are just trying to go about their day.

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