brambleshade_

brambleshade_ t1_j2fl51c wrote

You need a couples counselor, because I heavily feel like both of you yell out things in the heat of an argument that neither of you mean. This calls for a mediator who can help you communicate your feelings better (and before the boiling point that sparks an argument) in the long run.

Edit: I see that you tried that already, but you need to find someone you both feel comfortable with. Someone you both feel heard by. Even if you have to go through 20 different counselors to find the one, it's gonna be worth it if you're both willing to put in the work.

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