borkenschnorke

borkenschnorke t1_j2fdht9 wrote

I do not deal with that plans cancelling stuff a lot of times. Especially if there is no reason like an emergency or accident but the person just rather wants to spend time with someone else. I also will not argue like crazy if this happens to often, I will just stop making plans with these people or make plans that are not unconvenient to me if they are cancelled (like close where I live, have a Plan B for the day, not much planning needed, etc.). People are growing apart and that is just as it is when you get older.

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borkenschnorke t1_j2f6xqo wrote

You really should break up.

If it was flipped and he were to make a lot more money than you, would this make you try harder to match him or would that be fine with you? Most women want a men who is more successful then themselves and earns more money. It is totally natural. However don't say its about both providing half....

You tell him that he should not propose because you do not want to get married to him and if you are honest you should actually break up and give him the chance to find a partner that is more suited to what he wishes for.

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borkenschnorke t1_j2d8psg wrote

Dating is not about figuring out how to behave to get the other person to like you. Sooner or later your true feelings and values will come out anyways. Dating is about finding a person that you are compatible with and has the same values.

So you dislike her going completely silent for over a week. Not even a text now and then or a call every few days. Its totally viable and understandable that you dislike that. Now its not about changing your own character to accomodate her. It is about telling her that you dislike this behavior and then you can find a compromise or you walk away.

You say she knows you will always be there for her. If she knows you are simping she has no respect for you anyways. She thinks she is the price and you are lucky to have her maybe.

So my honest advice here is. Have some selfrespect and either tell her that this bevior is not okay and if she keeps behaving that way or, even better, just walk away. If it is like that after 4 months then this relationship is going down the drains eventually anyways. You can now go out of it, having learned a valuable life lessen and get a more suitable woman for the next or you let her trample your ego for a while longer until she dumps you for the next best guy when she gets bored of you.

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borkenschnorke t1_iuedriu wrote

This is really bad advice...

If you want to get to a certain weight but you just ate two pounds of junkfood or,

if you want to save for a house or appartment but just spend money on something you do not need or,

if you want to get a degree but just did not study all weekend, or

100000 other examples,

and you do not work on yourself and start working towards your goals, you will NOT get to where you want to be.

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