There are some social (not hookup) meetups / munches listed on fetlife. Idk if The Society in Hartford has found a new space yet but they used go host a lot of events. You can find them on fetlife. There are some local rope / bondage groups as well.

You could try Feeld app. Of the traditional dating apps, OkCupid seems the most kink-friendly.

NYC is also an option and tbh that’s where I do most of my dating. Boston, Providence, Western MA, Hudson Valley are also good nearby options.

Dating in CT absolutely sucks. I’m a queer women but I think it’s worse for straight women. It’s just a barren wasteland according to friends.

You literally have no argument or point here to discuss.

You literally never admitted that maybe my real life situation deserves the same consideration as your unrealistic fake one.

Go haunt someone else, Queen.

This isn’t a realistic argument. Sorry, but this is going in circles, and you’re really grasping at straws. Your fake scenario isn’t an issue with single occupant non-gendered bathroom. Meanwhile I’m talking about a REAL LIFE SITUATION that has happened to me , a woman, and has caused much harm. You’re frankly being very dismissive and disrespectful at this point. I suggest you learn how to listen and respect the experiences of other woman. Maybe learn how to take a L, too. I don’t waste time with ignorance and disrespect. Take care.

No, I can assure you it does nothing, but you aren’t able to admit when you don’t have an argument.

Take a look at my profile, see just how gender non-conforming I am, and tell me again I have no reason to think that non-gendered single sex restrooms don’t have a place in workplace.

You’re arguing that having a sign on the door somehow protects woman, while I, a woman, have been straight up harassed at my job due to my gender presentation. Nice.

Do you think hanging a sign that says “women’s room” prevents those things from happening?

You really haven’t given any good arguments for your position.

Maybe you shouldn’t have assumed I was a man?

And you haven’t explained why all this matters if it’s single occupancy? Probably because there is no good reason not to make it genderless.

Also, doesn’t my experience as a woman matter as much as you?

I think it’s interesting how you’re minimizing my experience as a woman why complaining about others doing the same thing. I’m dizzy just trying to follow your logic.

Trinity. During the last few world cups, the city actually opened an outside viewing area right next to Trinity, but that was during the summer.

Yes, as a woman I’m aware that our concerns are downplayed. As a gender non-conforming cis woman, I can say that my concerns of getting harassed in the bathroom are certainly valid, but having gendered single occupant bathrooms make me extremely uncomfortable and put me in awkward, sometimes dangerous, situations. Imagine the first day of work, being called out because “a man” is in the women’s room. Ever experience dehydration because you avoid drinking water because you’re afraid to use the bathroom that is assigned to your gender? This is what I deal with on a daily basis, and I don’t think my concerns should be dismissed as irrational either. There is literally zero harm in making single-occupant restrooms gender free.

I had a good experience with a GI doctor with Yale Health (employee health plan, not student). But it took a long time because everything was backed up (this was last fall). If you happen to need a referral for gallbladder / pancreas / biliary system issues, dm me for a few names. IMO the key is getting past the health plan doctors and into the care of real specialists. Also, it’s a PITA, but going to acute care helped to move the process along. Good luck.

The CT ACLU was also strongly opposed. There was also concern about the shadiness of the private companies selling and installing the cameras, particularly what agencies they’d release the footage to, like ICE. New Haven got city IDs in the late 2010s, so immigrants could have basic ID so they could get a bank account and not be a target for mugging. ICE retaliated by targeting New Haven for immigration roundups. So the question of public surveillance was (and still is) a big concern.

Eta: ACLU was concerned about due diligence, fairness, and privacy. I’m not sure if their stance had changed.

https://www.acluct.org/en/press-releases/traffic-light-cameras-still-a-bad-idea

Right, I’m just wondering what would make someone uncomfortable with a single occupant non-gendered restroom. Nobody else would be in there. I’m not uncomfortable with man using a bathroom in a restaurant, or event space, or a porta-potty, and to me this is the same thing.

Do they smell like incense? Some people can’t handle the incense smell. I’m fine with incense, but if it’s strong then after a while I’d probably just associate the matches with bathroom smells.

It’s a single occupant restroom, though.

Yes, thank you. I’m a gender non-confirming cis woman so I face frequent harassment in the women’s room. Non-gendered single restrooms are the best for everyone involved.

After a while, spray and matches start to kinda smell like shit, though. Like the smells mingle and it all starts to smell the same.

The answer is Poo-pourri, if people are considerate enough to spray the toilet water first.

https://pourri.com/collections/toilet-sprays

I had to unfollow that sub. Some people there have a weird obsession with posting graphic butchering pics without the NSFW tag, and I got sick of seeing pig heads and the like. Too bad, I’ve been an urban gardener for 15 years, managed a community garden, and I’m interested in urban self-sufficiency.

Oh if you’ve lived in a city before, then i think you’ll be fine. Maybe avoid Hurlburt and Spring St. if possible (last few months had a lot of activity there). Otherwise just use basic street smarts and you’ll be fine. Welcome and enjoy your time here!

Not a great area. But it’s busy by the supermarket and by the intersection with Kimberly Ave., which is good. It will likely be pretty desolate at night, should be better during the day. Motor vehicle thefts are pretty common throughout New Haven, as well as catalytic converter thefts. Might depend on the make/model of your car.

Latest New Haven crime stats by neighborhood (Compstat):

https://www.newhavenct.gov/government/departments-divisions/new-haven-police-department/compstat-reports/-folder-329

Lambert St. is located in Hill South district (the greater neighborhood is called The Hill). According to the latest report, gunshots were heard on Button St., close to Lambert, and Hurlburt St. a few blocks away from Lambert. There were a couple robberies in the district and 1 car stolen from a nearby garage (by Ikea, on the outskirts of the district). These reports are compiled every week or two.

Just stay alert, don’t wear headphones while you’re walking, and lock your car. I think you’ll be fine if you take basic precautions. Most violent crime isn’t aimed at random individuals, so likely people will just leave you alone.

As for bars: a lot of the old dives are sadly gone, but Three Sheets is fun.

Eta: if you like live music, check out Cafe Nine, it’s pretty divey. We have a lot of music coming through, bigger acts at College Street Music Hall. The Yale art museums are really good and free. Try New Haven style “apizza” at Sally’s, Modern, or Frank Pepe’s. Lots of good restaurants. East Rock, Wooster Square, and Westville are fun neighborhoods to check out. Edgerton Park is very pretty and quiet, has a cool greenhouse that’s nice to visit in the winter. East Rock Park is popular for hiking. Take a train to NYC, the commuter rail is called MetroNorth and it brings you to Grand Central in 2 hours.

Agree Branford and Milford are “nicer” and Hamden taxes are insane (worse than New Haven) - but OP doesn’t have kids. My impression is that there are fewer childless middle aged couples in especially Branford as well as Milford, but could be wrong. They’re also further out from downtown New Haven, 95 can be a barrier sometimes. And school quality doesn’t matter as much (although a well-run town is a bigger deal and agree that Hamden is struggling right now in that area) But yeah, Branford and Milford are also good choices. Personally, if I wanted to buy in the suburbs, I’d rent in New Haven first, get some friends, then buy in the surrounding areas.

I had good experience with Star Autos in Meriden. Car was in great condition and was well-priced (this was back in 2017 though). I didn’t use their loan services, though, I paid in cash. Usually credit unions are good options for loans. I have a friend with bad credit who uses one in the New Haven area - unfortunately I don’t know the name.

As one half of a childless, middle-aged couple, I heartily recommend New Haven. Lots of live music, arts, theater, dining, bars that don’t just cater to younger folks. Easy access to nature. On the commuter rail to NYC. Excellent community vibe. Recommended neighborhoods: Westville, Wooster Square, East Rock, Downtown, Beaver Hills between Goffee and Crescent, Morris Cove. Taxes are high but homes are often less expensive than suburbs. Nice old historic homes, most are well-maintained in the neighborhoods listed above. I’ve been a homeowner here for 10 years, free to dm me if you have any questions.

Also recommend Hamden (Spring Glen, Whitneyville, avoid Highwood).

A friend lived in that building for a few years. She felt safe, no issues. I agree that it’s a safe area with great walkability.

Good advice. To add on, OP might want to check out convenience stores and other small business, places with bulletin boards, bars/restaurants etc. and ask around. Small local weekly “newspapers”‘might have listings too (like The Yankee Flyer or Foothills Trader in Torrington area). A lot of older landlords aren’t necessarily on Craigslist or Facebook, they still rent the old fashioned way, by word of mouth etc.

Westville or East Rock would be my top pics. East Rock has a lot of new parents but it’s a little transient, many are grad students who are only here a couple years. Westville has more long term residents, many young families, larger yards. I recommend renting in East Rock the first year, because it’s more densely populated and easier to make friends, and closer to downtown.

Wooster Square, Beaver Hills, Downtown, and Morris Cove are other family friendly neighborhoods in New Haven. Milford and Branford are nice nearby towns with small downtown areas.

My parents are also NW CT-ish and this is about an hour away, very easy.

Throughout the pandemic, I’ve consistently had better luck getting tests / vaccine appointments in the Naugatuck valley area, likely because it’s a conservative area with lots of Trump supporters.