amberwench

amberwench t1_j6kq61r wrote

In an apple, making it seedless wouldn't change the overall shape much- the different texture that signifies the core would still be there- and people have been trained to not eat the 'core'. In cherries, it's already a expensive to pick such small fruits, removing the stone would make them even smaller, increasing the cost to harvest.

I adore UFO's (stoneless peaches) and would absolutely love to have a stoneless cherry tree in my yard! Not commercially viable but a fun oddball plant for gardeners.

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amberwench t1_j3p9dez wrote

>Buy something to make the chore easier. Something more convenient for you the chore master.

I've seen the timer dice- it looks like a 6 sided die where each side has a different preset time limit- and want one so bad. I can just... roll it... and whatever time limit it gives me will be how long I work on that chore. And if I feel up to more when the timer is up I can always *roll it again*. It makes the D&D geek in me happy.

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amberwench t1_j3p8swm wrote

You don't have to enjoy them, but you don't have to hate them either. Think of doing them as being nice to your future self. When you've finished one- even if it's just one small part of a larger task- tell yourself you've done good. You'd reward a kid who's new at learning chores, yes? Even if they kinda do it poorly, because they tried? So praise yourself too!

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amberwench t1_j1xklg7 wrote

Things I've learned from chatting with patrons at my library: The formulas for popular books continue in print because they are popular- they sell. In the self-help realm, that often means whole chapters of other people and their feel-good story of success. Some of the people who read self-help books want the promise that this one book will be the one to fix their problem and the peoples stories offered in the book support that idea. A few readers just want the positive stories (these stories are, at core, mini novels of problems resolved) and don't really care about the self-help part.

The belief of 'if I do what this book says, my life will be better' is real. Could that be translated to another format? Maybe? I can see it working as an App, maybe as a YT channel with the right formatting. Humans are odd in that, while we want the fast and easy answer, if the answer looks too easy we won't believe it works- and because we don't believe it we won't act upon/do it and it thus, it won't work (completely ignoring that it didn't work because we didn't do the work).

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amberwench t1_j1xiq4l wrote

As a clerk in a library, I would go through the new books list and put a hold on every title in a few categories so I could read (or at least flip through) them and make a a quick review. Some had new ideas and I would check them out for further reading. Many, if not most, were filler and a couple of common ideas.

Should you read a few? Yes. Use your library first though, because most are not worth the time and money. Search the topic(s) you want and make a list (better if you put them on hold, then the books will all be waiting for you!), flip through them and read a few paragraphs to see if you like the style. Sometimes you can just read the chapter headings and get all the good stuff in one go! If you happen to find a book that helps you, then sure, go ahead and buy it. Going back and re-reading it months or years later can help refresh the info and put you back on track. I own The One Minute Manager because while the ideas are simple I need to remind myself every year or so to actively use the good ideas!

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amberwench t1_iugg779 wrote

SO MUCH of the stuff/services they'll try to sell you at a funeral home is optional! If it doesn't comfort the living or wasn't a request of the deceased, you can skip it without guilt.

Collect all the mail, and read every bit of it. Go through wallets/purses and check for credit cards or accounts. You'll need to start the process to take ownership of them as soon as you have a death certificate. Some credit cards have life insurance, call every one and ask what, specifically, that company wants you to do to close the account and if they offer any benefits.

When a company asks for a copy of the death certificate, ask them if a regular copy will do, or does it need to be a certified copy? Certified copies are a lot more expensive! I think I ordered 8 for my mom and used every one.

Have written instructions/ a will/ acting power of attorney/ whatever suits the family's needs made in advance, or at least have a clearly written and agreed upon designated person for making choices. Yeah, it's uncomfortable to talk about, but if you love your pets/kids/house you'll want a say to prevent them from going to the pound/the aunt you hate/someone other than your wishes. When my dad died in a accident in '92 his brothers took his assets (truck, guns and bows, work equipment) leaving my mom and us 3 kids to pay for everything. When my mom died suddenly in 2008 my estranged stepfather got all the assets because they were still married and it was a 'spouse gets everything' state. In both cases just a paragraph written and signed with witnesses would have given us one leg to stand on!

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amberwench t1_isqo9sz wrote

I was working at a library, skimming new books when I found Blowing The Bloody Door Off by Michael Caine. I thought 'hey, I like him' and didn't have any book waiting so I took it home. That day I learned I like memoirs. Also suggest If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face? by Alan Alda. Sometimes they get a bit repetitive but that's easy to skip my eyes down the paragraph and move on to the next story. The idea of reading people I dislike for their view of events is intriguing! I'll consider it.

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