alltaken123467

alltaken123467 t1_j92yd79 wrote

This comment made me laugh. We’re talking about actions we can take to feel safe in public transport and your take away is that we think ‘all men are the devil’. That is hilarious to me!

I’m happily married, professionally successful, and have a heathy and loving friend group. However, when I take public transport, none of that matters.

I’ve had men who I don’t know yell that they want to fuck me and then scream bitch when I ignore them. I’ve had strange men smell my hair on the metro, touch my hair on the metro, try to get me to go on dates, ask me if I’ve ever fucked a black guy, and had one dude punch the window in front of me after I ignored his requests to fuck. Alllll I’m trying to do is go to work or come home from work and all of that happens.

No one helped me- not once. So I’ve developed a system to reduce the likelihood of unwanted attention. If that system hurts your feelings, it seems like a ‘you’ problem. Personally, I feel great!

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alltaken123467 t1_j8z2muk wrote

My best advice is for her to always have ear buds in (not so loud that she can’t hear her surroundings); sit in the very front car by the conductor; don’t make eye contact with men; and just act like she can’t hear them when they try to talk to her.

It freaking sucks, but that’s what I’ve learned to do and it’s worked thus far. It still pisses me off though that women have to put up with this shit everyday.

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