Thank you.

That’s not true. I don’t know what time zone you’re in, but it was nearing 2am when I posted this.

But I don’t want it to be just a favor or doing the motions. I want someone to love me enough to want to marry me. What if he never gets there?

Don’t get me wrong, I know legally what marriage is. It’s a very serious contract. It’s a major commitment, and I would never take it lightly.

Already in therapy. 🙃

May I ask, what led to divorce in your first marriage?

Prenuptials my friends!

Perhaps we just feel differently about marriage.

I think it all depends on the relationship. If when two people start dating, they have kids or are older, they may be inclined to get married quicker. Younger people are more likely to wait until they are 27-29 to get married. But as long as each partner is consenting, and there’s a healthy happy relationship there, I don’t think it’s up to outsiders to decide if marriage is right for them. I am realistic in that I know how important it is to consider all factors including that marriage is a binding contract. Divorce is ugly. Premarital counseling is important.

Thank you for sharing, and I’m happy to hear you’re in a great relationship.

It’s not that I value marriage above all else in our relationship. Being together, caring about each other, and showing each other love in little ways are important. But it is something I would eventually want. It’s the ultimate commitment.

I think that’s a bit presumptuous. We are happy together and this is the most stable, healthy relationship I’ve ever been in and I do take marriage seriously. Your comment sounds like you believe I’m naive, have been reading the wrong side of the internet, or you’ve had a bitter divorce yourself.

I don’t think that’s necessarily the case. Plenty of marriages are full of unhappy people, so it’s not as if I believe getting married automatically means a fairytale ending. But knowing what wanting to marry someone feels like, I just want him to be capable of feeling that way towards me, even if not now, in the future. It upset me so because I love him. I plan to talk to him again tonight.

He comforted me last night without knowing why I was crying and the way he was so kind and loving reminded me why I love him. I’d take all the wonderful things he is than risk it all in a gamble again. Thank you.

Thank you.

Traditionally, weddings are paid for at least in part by the couples families. Unfortunately not every family is able to pay.

I think weddings are definitely over priced and there’s still some societal pressure. However, people in the younger generations are definitely changing the way we do things.

Smaller weddings, non traditional weddings, and eloping are all becoming more and more common. I would never force or coerce a partner into a we’d ceremony they don’t want to participate in.

Personally, if someone came and was being a nuisance, I’d kick them out no problem.

I think that’s beautiful. Backyard wedding are actually pretty common these days.

I’m not religious so if I ever get married, I think I’d want it to be in a beautiful outdoor location rather than a church.