I hope she gets good therapy and moves on from this. I hope you learn from this and help a lot of people. Have a good day.

I feel no sympathy for you. I know this will likely mean nothing to you, especially as I have made my disdain clear, but if you are truly remorseful for what you've done, never drink again. If you won't be punished by law, make something of yourself and this experience. Don't drink, and devote yourself to protecting women when possible. If she has to suffer through this, then you can use your privilege and experience to help other women and prevent this from happening to them. Also, seek therapy and don't harm yourself. However reprehensible your actions might have been, it won't solve anything. Rehabilitation is always the goal. I also suggest that you not contact her ever again, for her sake. It's the best thing you can do for her.

Frankly, I don't believe you have the right to cry about this. You fucked up. You should feel bad. This woman told you that she has trouble trusting men, and had been sexually abused in the past. Even when I drink, I feel no urge to molest my friends, neither do any of my friends. You need help. You also deserve judicial punishment. Regardless of how she treats it or if she doesn't want to report, you molested her. The right thing to do would be repent and turn yourself in. I know you're not going to do that, but you're going to have to live with the guilt of traumatizing this woman. I hope you lie awake with guilt every night, and she does alert the police. This is inexcusable. Feel bad, but you have no right to be as "devastated" as you are. Despite being drunk it was still YOU that molested her.