You say that but try being an older woman playing those games; they're cling-ons. And impolite. Also teenage boys are very high strung and emotional, the holidays rack up some suicide threats so have a hotline handy. But the last time I made a suggestion the suicidal kid was like, "are you a feminist? Hahaha!" It cheered him up immensely to make fun of me, meanwhile I was like ok but wtf that doesn't even make sense. Save that one as a nuclear strategy, I guess.

Well then quite frankly, good luck having friends when tragedy strikes.

Some of you will welcome conversation with good intentions when you're fucked. Toxic positivity is terrible on the internet but less important in person. Judging someone for how they express their own feelings about you means you can't empathize with another person. It also makes you look self-absorbed.

Ex: I know someone who is very much about God having reasons for everything. I was surprised by it, and I really hate that line of thinking, but she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met and has been thru tough times. I see that is her world view so she means the best when she says it. In which case I don't begrudge her saying stuff like that.