Hmmm. Fair enough. It sounds like she’s a bit hung up on herself rather than understanding that school work should be the top priority here.

Just because you’re studying doesn’t mean that you don’t care about her.

I suppose I would sit down with yourself to really think about if you can accept how she treats you. I’m not sure if there’s a magical way you can explain it to make her better understand your perspective. You’ll have to decide what your limits/boundaries are for how you’re treated in a romantic relationship.

I wish I had a better answer for you!

It sounds like she wants validation for her feelings?

Not that you don’t have a good excuse, but if you’re shrugging her off with a quick text and expecting her to understand, that’s a bit different than maybe calling her or sending a longer explanation like :

“Hey babe, I know we had plans for Friday, but I have a huge midterm on Monday that I need more time to prep for. I’m so bummed and I feel awful for cancelling on you. Perhaps on Sunday we can at least meet for coffee or a quick lunch? The next week I’ll have a little more time, so I will plan something great for us on Thursday evening.”

To me, that would be better than: “hey babe, I gotta cancel tomorrow night. Big midterm on Monday. Love you. I’ll be in touch.”

So perhaps you might have to toss in a little extra TLC when you’re cancelling on her? And then make sure you absolutely follow-through when trying to make it up to her.