Undecidedbutsure

Undecidedbutsure t1_je9m6co wrote

Reply to comment by DangleBopp in Death with dignity by Avocadoexpresss

Thank you. I honestly never imagined what it would be like (how could anyone, really?). She died 16 years ago right before Mothers Day, I’ve never been the same. Losing a loved one is hard enough but to watch them suffer when it doesn’t need to end like that is intolerable.

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Undecidedbutsure t1_je7vo27 wrote

I watched my mom die an incredibly painful death over the course of 18 months. She wanted to die MONTHS before she did, at one point she asked me to do whatever I could to “make it stop”. She had brain cancer. She couldn’t eat, talk or move on her own towards the end. She was skin and bones. People had to wash her, dress her, assist with bathroom. She couldn’t swallow water. She was on hospice, the nurse kept saying every day might be “the day”….her organs were shutting down…etc. I asked for her to be given as much morphine as possible so she couldn’t feel anything. “She isn’t in any pain.” She ended up dying at 2:30am one morning because the phlegm that we would remove for her was stuck in her throat and she choked to death. She felt that. I know she did. She didn’t just drift away on morphine.

If anyone in their right mind thinks they want to die like this that’s their choice, but I sure as hell don’t and neither did my mom. Ppl should be able to choose.

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Undecidedbutsure t1_je2ot0a wrote

Odds are you’re beating a dead horse. It’s peanuts to opt in, and for whatever reason your organization doesn’t want to. Going over the CEO’s head is never a good idea, unless every employee agrees with you and this is a hot topic in the workplace. Most people don’t pay attention to leave policies because they don’t need them…until they need them. I cannot tell you how many times an employee has assumed that FMLA is 100% paid leave, or that there was no waiting requirement.

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