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UnApprovedActivities t1_j86zwp1 wrote

Honestly I'd suggest you look into volunteering with assisted living facilities. My uncle was in one for years due to his health concerns and the number of lovely people abandoned there is heartbreaking.

You can definitely find some sharp minds and lonely hearts who will live for your visits.

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UnApprovedActivities t1_j86yz4s wrote

With personal experience in mind I'm also interested in how values factor in, because in my mind values allow for flexibility in a way that goals don't. So like, having similar values regarding how you live (eg. vegan/hunting; modestly/finer things; religious/not). There is a lot more flexibility in aiming to be a non-religious vegan household living modestly than in aiming to have 3 kids, 2 cars, and a house by 30.

Eta: I don't mean that goals don't matter btw. They really, really do. I mean I'm curious how goals and values combined impact a relationship.

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UnApprovedActivities t1_j7b0iku wrote

I think this way about all my parenting choices. Like, it was important to me that my child take naps in a very structured way, but then I was like.... what will I do with 2? and we loosened up some. Still take naps but no longer work about laying down at the exact same time and place every day.

Edit it have us back a lot of freedom and it's way less stressful.

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