TotalLoose8308
TotalLoose8308 t1_iuj8w0v wrote
He should be open to considering other names.
>Should I humor him and watch the show?
Yes. You should, because you should have the context of the name. At the very least it strengthens your argument by showing you are taking the time to consider his position and this is not a dismissal made out-of-hand.
If the only name he has "personal significance" with is some anime girl... then the name itself is only one of the problems here. Have you two discussed the possibility of other names that have significance to him? What did he say about that?
TotalLoose8308 t1_iuiw6e8 wrote
>I cuddle with a friend (who’s also married.) Funny enough, I still have sex with my wife.
Yea, dude, the fact that you need to justify it with "funny enough" that you have sex with your wife shows YOU know it's sex adjacent. YOU have that association.
>and we classify this as not cheating
I'm sure you two do rationalize your cheating with each other. I can "classify" the sun as a bright ball of cheese to myself if I want, but we both know it aint.
>It can be very affectionate at times, just never sexual.
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If it's not cheating, you have nothing to hide, and will be more than happy to make sure your wife and her husband feel the same way. Why go to reddit instead of your spouses for another view?
Oh right, because you're cheating and you know it.
TotalLoose8308 t1_iujagp9 wrote
Reply to comment by CatLevel3620 in My (35F) husband (35M) wants to name our daughter after an anime girl by CatLevel3620
>He said Madoka is his #1 pick and I'm not being fair by rejecting the name when he didn't reject the name I picked for our son.
Yeaaaa, that's why deals like you made are kinda dumb, but not much you can do since you can change the past. Don't make that kind of blanket deal in the future, though.
Be careful how you frame your responses. It's clear he's on the defensive. You want to make sure you're coming at this as a "lets find something we're both happy with" and perspective and not "your name is dumb". He shouldn't be so defensive, but us humans are silly emotional animals sometimes and that's easier said than done.
Would I be correct in assuming you pointed out that "but I didn't reject yours" is not a one to one comparison, because your name did not have the implications that his does? It's a dishonest argument to pretend the situations are analogous, but that can be hard to bring up without setting an antagonistic tone.