Happy cake day! And thank you for your thoughts. I can assure you I’d make a terrible undercover spy, and apparently so would he lol.

The quick glances didn’t sit right with me either. I’m leaning towards going to a nearby hotel for a couple days to give this all a think.

I don’t want to snoop. He had it up on his screen and I asked for clarification. I’ve been a snooper in the past and know it doesn’t bring anything positive.

I’m asking him to verify what he says, which is that the messages are nothing, and he refuses. Which he has every right to do. I just don’t think I can forgive a situation I don’t even know the full magnitude of… I suppose I’m also a bit afraid of being taken advantage of.

Yeah… he can help rebuild my trust by showing me that the messages were truly nothing, but he won’t. You’re right that I can only go by my gut at this point. It still really doesn’t feel right. But idk what else to do.

It was up on his screen and I asked him for clarification and he started lying and being defensive. I have nothing else that I question about him, which is what makes all of this difficult. I want to say forget it and move on but I feel like that might be super naive…