That sounds like a good idea! I talked to my mom and even though she doesn’t like me going, she knows she can’t stop me and asked me to pray to my sifus and ask for their understanding before I go. Thank you for your reply 😊

Sounds like a good compromise, thanks!

I’m a bit wary of both of my parents because of their loveless marriage. It seriously messed me up seeing them fight for years. Other than being culturally divided from my dad, I’m not as close to him because i find some of his views to be more…conservative? He’s a bit racist and homophobic. Although my mom isn’t necessarily an ally either, she at least doesn’t mind people of other races or identities.

I love them both but there’s a lot of issues between our family that I can’t change. And thank you for your insight!

I know it’s just a superstition but I can’t help but feel like I’m going against my Chinese culture by doing this, but I know that I’m not just Chinese and I’ll have to find some kind of compromise within myself. I’ve tried to have her understand but I can’t see this getting to her. My dad isn’t perfect either but at least this will make him happy as my brother doesn’t want to go.

My mom and relatives rarely wear white tho, i can’t remember the last time they did, I remember everyone making a fuss when I wore a white headband with a white flower on my head a couple years ago. Thank you for your comment tho!