Tantrumia
Tantrumia t1_ixfnsbe wrote
Reply to comment by backgroundmusik in TIFU by not listening to the song my husband wrote for our autistic daughter. by backgroundmusik
Well, it looks like there's more to your story than what you wrote. You might want to consult a professional to help you all out.
Tantrumia t1_ixetfgw wrote
Reply to TIFU by not listening to the song my husband wrote for our autistic daughter. by backgroundmusik
It's such a personal experience that any advice will be just a shot in the dark but I'll try.
If you want to fix it, I guess you might have to wait it out. Just find the time he's comfortable and not occupied with music and only then try to explain your, I beg your pardon, inattentiveness to his music.
Even if you don't fully discern the details of his music, ask him to tell you about it, ask about the instruments, melodies, specific lyrics, the song structure, inspiration, the creative process, all those details non-musicians often don't care too much, but for a musician are of utmost importance. You will see the fire in his eyes when he starts telling you about it.
General words of praise, like "It's a beautiful song" are OK, but we all have heard they so many times, they make not much impression. Musicians love to be asked about their creations, so do find some time to talk to him.
Also, I wouldn't blame you for what happened. Discussing art is not a simple thing if you're not into it. And in your case it could well have been an inadvertent "failure to communicate."
Edit: spelling
Tantrumia t1_j14qr6c wrote
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