Dang, sorry. Well, maybe you could try bullet-style IEMs(they tend to get around some fit issues due to ear anatomy). They're typically just long-ish and cylindrical, and usually lightweight. Like the Final E5000 or Flare Pro 2HD. Or just small IEMs in general like the Hifiman RE400. If you can use foam earplugs you should be able to use small earphones too I would think, I dunno though. Good luck!

Maybe this will help: how to wear IEMs

If you get the right size tips and an adequately deep fit there's no reason they should be falling out.

Sony IER-CRN incoming!?

It reminds me of when Alexa tells my girlfriend what's on sale, which tends to go something like: "I found a deal for 'woman's jumper top sexy comfortable halter top tube top spaghetti strap bellbottom pants buffalo soldiers mesh sexy bed time outdoor PPE sparkling lounge wear ravioli' for FIVE DOLLARS and ZERO cents*, would you like to buy?"

Sometimes I want an emotional outlet with something I can connect and relate to, and sad songs give me that. Also, I just like good music. I can enjoy and appreciate, even if my mood isn't reflecting the vibe.

And here I am constantly wracked with guilt over what I'm taking from the system lol. And you're right; I've heard that same cynical perspective from fellow vets more than a few times. I kinda get where the perception comes from("you guys did XYZ in good faith for your nation and now the gubment is gonna drag their feet with your treatment?"), but just because something doesn't work as well as it could or even should, does not mean it is trash.

On top of getting paid every month so that I don't have to work if I don't want to(I don't lol), I've gotten every kind of treatment I needed and thensome. Tons of psyche stuff, but also optical, dental, back stuff, whatever I've needed help with. They have also helped get me into housing programs when I was on the streets for a bit, have helped by getting me into fun programs like Drum Circle, and free medication. And yeah some of the employees DGAF but you'll find that anywhere, and on the flipside of that token I've met tons of compassionate, caring people at the VA.

And when I was stuck in a cycle of self-destruction and kept finding myself in the VA psyche ward with suicidal ideations, feeling guilty over like my seventh stay in about a three year span, a nurse there told me "Even if you have to come back here a hundred times, we are here to help you through it with open arms and a compassionate ear" which really meant a ton to me at the time.

That seventh trip was one of my last trips in a long time, so I guess she was right that I didn't need to kill myself to extricate myself from so many negative feelings. Thank you blonde VA nurse!

I had a similar conversation with a VA employee recently(and I'm a retired vet myself), and he was saying something similar. "We already have a system in place." Yeah not the best, but at least it's a functional model to start with. I'm very grateful that I don't ever have to worry about healthcare stuff like a lot of Americans do. The VA has had my back 100% of the time and I never have to wait very long for anything.