But why did you want to tell her you're happy for her? Are you actually happy for her and you wanted to let her know/congratulate her? Or was it selfishly motivated in some way, like to make yourself feel better or to "try and be the bigger person"?
If it was just to congratulate her, then it shouldn't matter if it made you feel better. It's a nice, selfless gesture. If it was selfishly motivated, then that's probably why it didn't make you feel better. Because you're still trying to "win" the breakup or "be the bigger person" years later. The only way to "win" is to move on and stop playing the game.
Either way, sorry to hear it. I'd be upset seeing someone who cheated on me succeed like that. Sorry man
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But why did you want to tell her you're happy for her? Are you actually happy for her and you wanted to let her know/congratulate her? Or was it selfishly motivated in some way, like to make yourself feel better or to "try and be the bigger person"?
If it was just to congratulate her, then it shouldn't matter if it made you feel better. It's a nice, selfless gesture. If it was selfishly motivated, then that's probably why it didn't make you feel better. Because you're still trying to "win" the breakup or "be the bigger person" years later. The only way to "win" is to move on and stop playing the game.
Either way, sorry to hear it. I'd be upset seeing someone who cheated on me succeed like that. Sorry man