SHybrid
SHybrid t1_iwh9ufp wrote
Reply to comment by Steve_Austin_OSI in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger
I have no words but lol. Are you even a parent? If yes I hope these are just some extreme examples to get a kick out of talking back to a random stranger, and not real parenting tips.
If I'm to go in detail...
Your police car theft example doesn't stand. Here's why. You were doing something illegal. OP is not, nor was OP's mom when she had a vibrator. On top of that, the ethical positions on using a sex Toy can be variable, while car theft Is inherently wrong. I can possibly imagine (with not little effort) that there may be some sort of reasons for a person to regret having used a vibrator, that doesn't justify OP's mother reaction and her way of ignoring the detail that she had a vibrator too, when called out. If She thinks she had good reasons to regret a completely legal and legitimate thing, she should rationally explain why she wouldn't suggest it to her daughter instead of going berserk.
'OP's mum can argue that she's watched 24/7'
How is that healthy?! Like... Wow. Amazing parenting there. Talk about not antagonizing the situation.
Which brings me to 'don't buy another vibrator'
If the things are so bad that OP can't get back her previous one, then she should definitely buy another. It's healthier than not have one and satisfy your needs elsewhere. And not all women can get off only by-hand or (alas) with the shower.
SHybrid t1_iwg7sy7 wrote
Well first of all your mum is a hypocrite, but this you already know. That's a bluff you can call. Having been in a similar situation back when I was living with my parents, I suggest this approach.
- try to tone it down instead of going nuclear. Be the mature one.
- play the "would you rather I had casual sex?" card. Worked for me. If I can satisfy my urges with a toy rather than a random guy from the club it's definitely better, she can't not agree. This works also for when the birth control talk comes around.
- buy another vibrator and hide it better. Also the shower jet is a great alternative, and they can't take that lmao
SHybrid t1_iwhadmh wrote
Reply to comment by troubled_stranger in TIFU by trying to get back my vibrator by troubled_stranger
Then your solution is probably to power through, hide better your future toys and find alternative solutions (e.g. the shower nozzle). You won't be there forever.
Also when you decide to go for the real thing, don't let the fear of your mother meddling stop you from buying condoms, birth control etc. Absolutely.