Thanks for the feedback.

I didn't say that their seeing a therapist is a bad thing. I think anyone can benefit from talking to one. Wouldn't you agree?

I don't think I'm projecting.

The OP sounds like a nice person. They also come across as bored. I think that is an indicator to something. Or consciously decide not to do anything and begin processing the grief that could accompany that. Or, to kick start something new and potentially meaningful.

As a previous commenter mentioned, what you call average is what many might aspire to. I'm aware that that's not what you want to hear or that you find helpful, so here's my practical advice for you:

If you're honest when you say you value the stuff in your life you need to accept it, your "average" life. Desire nothing more than but to nurture what you already have. You might also find this brings value to others.

I also advise you see a therapist.

A new affair of sorts - career, romantic, life passion - can be great, but if you're someone who thrives in stability or needs it, understand that the risk profile for engaging in one these activities is high. The cost for being above average requires sacrifice. Whichever decision you make, you'll need to accept full responsibility, as you are for your current mindset.