Obvious_Ad9670

Obvious_Ad9670 t1_it0xhf6 wrote

Why NJ over NY? When I worked in NYC I moved there because the commute drained my life and aged me prematurely.

Living in a quiet place would put you in Princeton Junction and offer up the train, but I'm guessing your husband is going to work near the port authority which is a terrible place. But if he is working in midtown, live off the NEC. Princeton Junction is quiet and in some places you can walk to the train and live a suburban lifestyle.

Racism is everywhere in NJ and NYC, me and my gf are different races so we get it a lot more than same race couples. I suppose it depends on tolerance to it. We call it out and take none of it so we have more exposure.

Keep in mind that NJ has a demand for public transportation, we pay handsomely to commute via train $500+ in some areas. While the subway stats are negligible, deaths and violence on the subways have skyrocketed after the pandemic.

I've lived in CT, Brooklyn, Queens, Manhattan, Mercer County, Middlesex County, Burlington County, Philadelphia.

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