Thanks. I do hope you are still getting counseling though. As far as what I went thru with the ex-girlfriend, it was a walk in the park compared to what I had an ex-fiance and an ex-wife do me.

Dated a woman with scars long ago. She was self conscious of them from an abusive marriage. We were being intimate and she saw her reflection in the mirror on my closet door, stopped, and started crying. I just took her in my arms and asked what was wrong. She cried that she saw us in the mirror and saw her "ugly" scars. I just told her, "what scars? I see beauty marks of a strong survivor" and gently kissed one of her scars(her scars didn't hurt physically). She just smiled and after just holding her until she calmed down, she thanked me for loving her for everything she is...and we had one of the most intense lovemaking times we ever had together.

She still had trust issues and really wasn't ready for a long term relationship. She finally broke up with me when one of her sh*t tests to see if she could get me to be jealous finally pushed me too far. Basically she asked for us to go out dancing with a couple of her friends, so we went. She waited to mention her friend's dance buddy was one of her ex's she used to live with halfway to the guy's house to pick him up. After getting to the club she ignored me all night and danced with her ex. When I had enough of being ignored for 3 hours I confronted her about it and she said I was being jealous and broke up with me. Went no contact with her after that night. Six months later she contacted me apologizing for what she put me thru and said she finally got professional counseling that helped her. She wanted one more try, but I had just started seeing someone a month prior(who I now have been married to for 17 years). She thanked me for trying to be strong and patient with her and if things didn't work out that she would be willing to try again. She did move on, got remarried, and had a happy life. We didn't keep in touch but would be friendly when running into each other in public.

So sorry for being long winded here, but I would encourage you to see if you can get some continued counseling. See if you can get your therapist to recommend a book to encourage your boyfriend to read that could help him be a bit more proactive in not bumping into any of your triggers. He's young and still learning as you are. Emotions and relationship communication is an ever-growing thing. You'll be okay. You are one of the strong ones. :)