I get incredibly annoyed about everything all the time. I’ve found if I vocalize why I am truly upset in a situation so we can talk about it, it helps. Like “I’m getting really frustrated that you’re talking to me about this when it’s your turn to do the laundry and you haven’t done it yet.” Instead of “I don’t give a shit about Star Wars”. I try to get to the root of why something he’s doing is bothering me and it’s very rarely the thing itself (except when he walks around the house loudly singing the one line of a song he knows over and over. That’s objectively annoying). I also practice some deep breathing and physically removing myself from his presence if I think I’m about to wig out. Not storming away but saying “I’m not mad I’m just going to take a minute to collect my thoughts”.
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Reply to [19f] [20m] I need help being kinder to my boyfriend. by L0V3LY-SAVV
I get incredibly annoyed about everything all the time. I’ve found if I vocalize why I am truly upset in a situation so we can talk about it, it helps. Like “I’m getting really frustrated that you’re talking to me about this when it’s your turn to do the laundry and you haven’t done it yet.” Instead of “I don’t give a shit about Star Wars”. I try to get to the root of why something he’s doing is bothering me and it’s very rarely the thing itself (except when he walks around the house loudly singing the one line of a song he knows over and over. That’s objectively annoying). I also practice some deep breathing and physically removing myself from his presence if I think I’m about to wig out. Not storming away but saying “I’m not mad I’m just going to take a minute to collect my thoughts”.