You shouldn't be getting married or even thinking about marriage until you already have that. Otherwise you are getting married for the sake of getting married.

I always hated the idea of marriage. Seemed utterly pointless. I was with my girlfriend for 8 years before I proposed. You are putting way too much emphasis on marriage. It's literally nothing but a party.

It's for your family to get to know each other. That's it. Marriage won't save your relationship. Marriage won't change anything. Literally not a thing will change. 2 weeks after your marriage will be the exact same as 2 weeks before your marriage. I don't know whta you are expecting, but that's not the solution.

Premarital counseling? I legit have never known a single person to do that. You go to couples therapy when you are struggling. If you are going to couples therapy before your married, that seems like the relationship isn't working.

Is it really that embarrassing to say you watching pegging porn to the guy who was getting pegged?

You can't come back. If time travel was possible it would be another universe or something. If you changed the past, you'd either go back to a unaltered future, or going to an alternate future where you either don't exist, or there is a seperate version of you already there.

I mean.. The only reason people feel like they could make drastic changes to the past is because we know exactly how it plays out and what to change. We have jo idea how it plays or or what to change in the present to affect the future