I noticed some of those people who don’t admit their faults were always scared of many things. If they are wrong, their world is destroyed. So, admitting their fault is a matter of life or death for them. But as this author said, we don’t need to bother them. When I wanted to take revenge on someone, I just progressed and became happy by thanking the person for giving me a chance to learn about humanity because I knew that my happiness is the last thing they wanted to see.   

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“Don’t do this!” or “Do this!” has never worked for me. For example, when I dislike my mother-in-law, even if someone says “you must love your enemy,” how can I?

However, when I understand her life and become compassionate with her, I can learn a kind of psychology from her and I can thank her for giving me a chance to study firsthand psychology, and then I can work harder to become a better person who even can love my enemy.

Appreciation and Love naturally occur when we try to learn from others. I can’t memorize those many imperative forms either because my life would become too complex to enjoy.

I’m not a native English speaker, so I may be misunderstanding the meaning. Does this mean “If you work hard, you should be rewarded. I hope you feel happy with the outcome” or something? But sometimes the reward is different from what I expected. I often got scared later by thinking “If I hadn’t failed there and hadn’t found my fatal mistakes, what would have happened?”

Besides, even if we could get what we wanted, I don’t enjoy someone saying, “See these acorns I got! Work hard, then you can win!!” I don’t need those many acorns and feel uncomfortable with that person. I think that person may lose many friends by making much effort and getting what he/she wants. Then is the person actually happy?

I would probably give the treasures away, but not to people who demand more and more. It’s like giving water to a strainer, and I will go bankrupt shortly. I want to give the acorn to the one who can imagine how I earned it and how the acorns grew up because the one would make the most of the small gift. Then the acorn and I can get more worth than we could imagine and we are actually rewarded by sharing our fortune. Giving is sometimes getting more.

I agree with you. Some people have useful insight and tips, however, in the past, I was choked with obligational feelings once I got someone’s so-called ‘help’. I couldn’t say “It didn’t work”, especially to someone who really believed they were helpful.

But one day I found, I didn’t need to worry about offending someone even when something awkward happened because if the person really wanted to help me, the one didn’t get bothered even if I gave them honest feedback. When some people got angry and left me, I was sad, but I was lucky because I couldn’t live to please those people forever.

Anyway, I think it’s good to have a third person’s opinion when we want to achieve something as best as possible, for the point of view is usually limited.

Thinking “I’m going to climb up this mountain” sometimes makes me feel kind of tedious. But I think I climbed them a lot without noticing it because I fell into the depth of the sea and returned to sea level, fetching many souvenirs. My mountains were just upside down. I just think “the difference between ‘where you were’ and ‘where you are now’ is what you got.

I would stop spending time on media kinds and have a bit of space with my friends once and try something I haven’t ever done. Anything is fine. Sports, cooking, reading, tracking, music. Even bad things would help you if you can come back from there. But when I do, I do it as much as possible.

Actually, I did so many things, fell from my face, and stood up over and over again, all of which have helped me see the core of something because it became the matter of life or death. Hahaha. Unless I could find the real solution, I could die there! Then one day I found, I was not affected by anything and I was super versatile because most things follow the same logic and it doesn’t take much time to learn a new thing.

Everything in this world seems to be logical when you see it from their point of view, otherwise, how can they make a profit? But many are actually incoherent when seeing it from the above. Please try something and put your heart and soul into it, then you don’t need to think about “how to not get affected”.