You have about the same chances of getting a spot in a shelter as you do getting an apartment

I have responded to a couple. I have no other choice. You do not know my child’s father the way I do. He also has connections to the police. He is controlling and it is all a way for him to control me. I have no other choice but to return to the US. I will be speaking with. DTA, DCF, Shelters, everywhere that I can to help seek shelter. Either way I’m at risk of losing my child. I’m and holding out hope that I will be given shelter. But I can’t control what space they have available. How about instead of trying to dig and accuse my situation of being fake, either provide some real advice for the question I’m asking or move on to another post. You’re not helping anyone right now with your comments.

Hopefully this time is different

I literally tried the whole of MA, RI and CT last time and they didn’t place me at all. I even mentioned to MA shelters that MA is a right to shelter state and they said they couldn’t help me as they had no space

Im not saying it will be different. That is why I am seeking ways to entertain my child while living out of a car until I can get space in a shelter or secure childcare and a job and get an apartment.

Thank you for the ideas. I haven’t heard of HAWC so I will look into them.

Yes definitely, the issue is wether they have room or not. Unfortunately they all get filled up very quickly

I have food stamps and cash assistance for my son, $506 a month cash assistance and $230 a month SNAP. That is my income. They have told me I’m it eligible myself for snap or cash assistance because I’m not a citizen.

They’re not turning me away because of my immigration status. I’m saying I don’t get things like cash assistance from the government or other benefits like that that can help because of my immigration status. The shelters in MA, RI and CT at the time when I was fleeing my sons father were all full.

Yes it has definitely come up in topic before hence why I am so cautious about it. Yes I know it is a real possibility as I have looked into. I have pleaded and begged his father to let me stay here or to take his son full time and he refuses. It’s all part of his control over me still from the abusive relationship.

Excuse you, maybe if you had read other comments then you would learn that I did make moves for my own place. I was in transitional housing. My sons daycare closed in June suddenly so I lost my job due to lack of childcare. I couldn’t just leave him with family or a friend because I have none in the us. If I can’t work, guess what, I can’t pay the fee to stay in transitional housing. The shelter gave me 30 days notice and said I had to leave. My mother bought our plane tickets to the uk and has been paying for us for the last 2 months and has given me money to help. However, I can’t just get an apartment without enough money for first, last and deposit or 2 of those. I can’t get an apartment without a job showing I have 3x the rent. I can’t get a job without childcare. So don’t talk to me about knowing better, I made decisions from the options I had. Maybe you would have done different but our situations are different, our options in life are different, you do not face the same struggles as me. So take your unkind words elsewhere because you are not helping me or my situation in anyway and just bringing more negativity to a bad situation. Way to kick another mother whilst she’s already down.

Ive dealt with shelters before, even stated that ma is a right to shelter state. They simply told me they didn’t have any space and I had to try elsewhere and call back in a few days to try again if I still didn’t find somewhere.

I’ve shed many tears trying to find shelter for my so. And I previously

Thank you, I will definitely give them a call, I have a lot of shelters and places to call to get help, I know this.

Sorry you went through a similar situation and I’m glad that you got through it and are doing a lot better. I can’t wait for the day things start to turn around. I’m fed up of trying my best and doing everything I can for my son and nothing changing.

Thank you, I will definitely take a look and reach out.

I tried every shelter in MA, CT and RI as advised. All were full and kept telling me to call back. I tried for months. I’m not a us citizen so I don’t have all the same benefits and rights to help as americans

Thank you

I had no choice but to move in with this man, I felt like my life was in danger. I called every shelter in MA, RI and CT and not a single shelter could help me. I called for months.

Also my ex has to give me back my car when I return as it is my car, solely in my name.

Who are you to judge? If you have nothing nice to say keep your judge comments to yourself or take them elsewhere. I am seeking advice while I do what I know I need to do. I put my son first always. They will not take my son if I am seeking shelter and working with a shelter to find a place. Just because you’re life is easier than mine don’t tell me to focus on providing a stable life for my child when that is exactly what I am doing, alone in a country with no help or guidance.

We don’t have any custody agreements through the courts. We both have joint custody right now

This is definitely not a creative writing piece. I am reaching out to shelters, don’t want to keep replying to people telling me to stay in the UK when that isn’t an option. I just want ideas to keep my 3 year old entertained while living in a car for a short time until a shelter has space for me.

Ive stated that I cannot just keep my child in the UK. My sons father was abusive and narcissistic. He has a lot of family in the US and contacts to the police and fire. He will definitely pursue kidnapping charges if I don’t bring my son back. No offense but you don’t know the person I’m dealing with or every detail about my situation. You say about scammy people trying to get money from people, I have had people reaching out to me offering to help me with money, clothes and general items for my child. I have said no, I’m not asking for money and my child is not in need of anything right now. I am simply asking for ideas to keep an active 3 year old entertained while living in a car while I pursue help with shelters because the chances of me getting a bed right away are very slim. Please do not make comments when you know nothing of the situation besides a few sentences. It can be very triggering for someone especially like myself when I’ve reached out to people before and they never want to help. I find it very hard to ask for help because everyone always wants my help but never want to help me. I don’t get as much help from the government because I am not a us citizen. So please be more thoughtful and kind with your words. Thank you and happy new year.

Not an option, I will not risk losing my son by breaking a notarized agreement with my child’s father which will put him in a place to keep threatening me or even act on getting full custody of my son

Thank you I will check out their website

Child is both a British and American citizen, I am a British Citizen with a green card

Yea it would still class as kidnapping because it would be me refusing to bring his son back to him especially when we have notarized agreement.