The biggest indicator that a healthy relationship will last is how willing each person is to work on it together (and (not or) possibly on themselves alone). If you expect a healthy long term relationship to just happen you’re going to be disappointed. It’s like walking into a gym and expecting the swole to just happen. It takes intention and effort.

There are many excellent therapists throughout Vermont and I’d recommend finding one through this website:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists

Also I’d like to commend you on your commitment to your relationship, to your significant other, and to yourself. Bravo! Anything worth having requires effort.