GunasInFlux

GunasInFlux t1_j4hgmal wrote

Playing devil’s advocate, mdma certainly can open up doorways that otherwise wouldn’t be open in one’s mind, makes human connection of all types feel incredible, and loosens inhibitions. Speaking like a rational human being though, OP took a drug that he didn’t understand, took it in secret so his wife wouldn’t know, had horribly irresponsible sex, and now believes he’s the victim. OP is an immature, irresponsible, dishonest husband at best and a straight up cheater who thinks he is the victim in a situation where he could’ve made different choices and every turn.

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GunasInFlux t1_iwgln96 wrote

Don’t talk about yourself so negatively, my man. This interaction didn’t go super well. But, she waiting for you outside the bathroom. She saw you didn’t know what to do and was kind enough to see beyond that to the person you are underneath. If you tell yourself, “I’m oblivious. I’ll fuck up again in the future. I am no good,” you best believe those things will be true, but only because you believe them. Start telling yourself things that you want to be true. “When I fuck up, I know I can recover. I am not bound to fuck up. I am learning, growing, and deserving of peace and love. Success is within my reach. I am not where I want to be, but I can work to get myself there.” Simple affirmations that may feel like “lies” at first but in reality can be and will be true IF you start to believe them. Our personal identities are mostly the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves about our lives. Start telling yourself a better story. You are worthy of self confidence, peace, joy, and love. But you will only have those things when you believe they’re possible for you. You got this.

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