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Good_Smile t1_iy2wkhu wrote

Reply to TIFU by introducing my best friend to my girlfriend by myir4

I had a pretty similar situation, however it can't be called cheating in my case, everything was .

I needed 1.5 years to get through everything completely (we were dating 2 years), but I did not break contracts with them, even though I wanted for a while, I just realised it would get even worse if I did that. I had quite a few issues in my life and that was one of them. At the end I just realised I wouldn't be able to live my whole life with that girl anyway, we were really different and argued quite a bit as well. I said fuck it, drew a diagram what I want to achieve in this life and turns out I can live without a girl because I have a lot of stuff that I have to do to improve myself and that I can achieve solely by myself. Finding a girl for a lifetime is a lottery anyways, so I don't worry about not winning one in a while. As they say, what belongs to you will not go away. Several times later I'm happier than ever because I finally achieved something in this life and it would never happen if we never broke up, for example met a lot of new people from different countries and travelled quite a bit.

OP, it's just a bitch and an asshole, what did you lose? Consistent sex access and a person that turns out you could never trust again? It's not worth wiping your life out because of that, the world is full of great people that you will find in the future, you are only 20. Let this be the lowest point of your life, it always goes like a spiral and everything that happens happens for the best. Just believe in yourself and move on, we do not live in a fairy tale. Think about yourself primarily, and always be independent. That way you will move on much easier if someone betrays you. Cheating is a betrayal and for me personally is an instant goodbye forever.

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