GivesYouBells
GivesYouBells t1_j2f7vyo wrote
Reply to comment by Sweet-Amoeba- in [22F][32M] Boyfriend’s been away for almost 3 months and sometimes doesn’t respond to my texts for over a day. Is this something to get upset over? by [deleted]
It is very reasonable!!!!!!! And believe me, I’ve dated guys, 7-9 years older than me, my grandmother met my grandfather when she was 17 and he was 53, so no judgment whatsoever. Woman to woman, the hardest thing I’ve had to overcome to make my relationships successful is thinking that my feelings are not the most important thing in the relationship. His are just as important, and I think realizing you’re upset will help with the issue.
GivesYouBells t1_j2f6qro wrote
Reply to comment by Sweet-Amoeba- in [22F][32M] Boyfriend’s been away for almost 3 months and sometimes doesn’t respond to my texts for over a day. Is this something to get upset over? by [deleted]
You’re entitled to express your feelings. No one can change the way you feel, including him. You guys have a pretty significant age gap… your prefrontal cortex isn’t even fully formed yet, respectfully, and you’re likely pretty mature from the way you write. I definitely can relate and understand from relationships I was in when I was your age (I’m 26f). But honestly, the further you go into this relationship feeling like you shouldn’t bring up your feelings about something that bothers you is another brick in the wall between you.
GivesYouBells t1_j2f5z0a wrote
Reply to [22F][32M] Boyfriend’s been away for almost 3 months and sometimes doesn’t respond to my texts for over a day. Is this something to get upset over? by [deleted]
I’m guessing that he’s been away for work? Or is it a long distance relationship? my bf has a very intense job and when we were living apart he would text me but sometimes wouldn’t have much time to sleep, let alone text me. I would just establish that you don’t feel like a priority to him when he doesn’t respond to you.
GivesYouBells t1_j2fa9k3 wrote
Reply to (26 F) (27 M) My boyfriend’s dog is driving a wedge and building resentment between us and I don’t know what to do. by Taylor_4l
You guys need to consult a private dog trainer. Sometimes they can be expensive, but the relief that you’ll feel afterwards will be worth the money spent. And you could even bring up the fact that you’re under a lot of financial stress, and the dog is making it worse and interfering with your day to day lives as well, so he needs to pay for her to go to a professional trainer, and you both attend sessions. You could potentially do some research on doggy day cares that do training as well.