The singularity is not a "thing", it is the description of a time when we cannot predict what will occur.

The "singularity" is just a time when technology is accelerating so fast that those of us in the current moment can no longer predict or imagine what might happen. It's more just a statement of acknowledging the limits of our current knowledge. To someone living 10,000 years ago, we've long since passed the singularity from their perspective.

If we assume for a second that Kurzweil is 100% right that the singularity is in 2045, it probably won't feel like that to us in 2045, it just looks like that from the perspective of 2023.

What people are tyring to get you to realise is that any message you receive from after the singularity right now will be unknowable, because it will come from a time that is fundamentally unknowable to you right now. DOes that make it clearer?