Elco1998

Elco1998 t1_j288wi6 wrote

"Surrounded by Idiots" by Thomas Erikson seems similar to "The Four Tendencies". You might like it as well.

It's about 4 peoples personality types: red (leadership/aggresive), blue (analytical/scrutiny), yellow (talkative/egotiscial) And then green (workers/submissive) and they're behaviors and how they work together; they're pros and cons and who works with who best. It can be used for businesses for productivity, communication or simply understanding yourself and others (which is what I used it for). It makes you take things less personally when people act certain ways (because its their nature) — it makes you more forgiving.

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Elco1998 t1_j288ocb wrote

FANTASTIC books for progression, overcoming, understanding the self and others, and having a tough reasonable mentality:

Overcoming Social Anxiety & Shyness by Gillian Butler.

The Chimp Paradox by Prof. Steven Peters.

Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins.

Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson.

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Elco1998 t1_j252qmb wrote

400+ books? You must be a walking encyclopedia by now. Hahaha. Anyway. That's a lot of wood to be transporting. I think digital is the way for you. 😂

All the best on your house. I hope it works-out. It's certainly a far-reaching dream for me atm. Anyway...🤞 for you.

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Elco1998 t1_j23nrlh wrote

Us "Non-North Americans" dont know what you mean by B&N. I'm gonna assume its a book shop of some sort. Anyway...

You can't borrow any book, but you can buy any book.

It's a matter of what you need and your financial situation. If you cant afford it — borrow it (borrowing from the librabry is completely free in Ireland with no late charges).

If you need multiple books of a single category e.g., for studies — borrow it. Is it a specific book? You might only be able to buy it, and want to reread it or use as a refernece here-and-there — buy it.

The library doesn't have everything, but the interent does. But maybe this B&N place does. But I'm not sure what that is.

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Elco1998 t1_j1wja9k wrote

With any book, I think you have to REALLY make a connection with the book to benefit greatly. No matter what book you've read, it has become part of you — even if it's a tiny amount.

You have to study the book: take notes as you read it, practise what you've learned, read it again and read your notes. That's what I started doing recently.

For books I want to REALLY study, I put a "reread" label on it. On my first read through, I take notes (anything that seems significant) on an A4 pad labelled "reading study copy" and read over the notes ive just written after that reading session. When you finally reach the end of the book, read all the notes you've written, and occasionally read over them to remember. Then add "1" on the bottom of your label to signify your first read through. Then read through again at some point, and repeat the process.

My personal self-development/self-help books that I found FANTASTIC!:

Overcoming Social Anxiety & Shyness by Gillian Butler.

The Chimp Paradox by Professor Steven Peters.

Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins.

Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson.

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