The incubation period for chlamydia is weeks not months. It's highly unlikely you were infected from some tryst he had five months ago.

If you're coming on way strong at just 90 days into this she probably doesn't mean it as a good thing when she says "she has never been loved the way" you "love" her. Three months is still just very much in the tentative getting-to-know-you phase of a relationship so if you're throwing around the "L word" and acting like you two are getting married of course she's freaked out. On top of that she's 22, meaning you almost certainly won't be the last relationship she ever has. Check yourself because this would all be way too much for the typical early 20's person only a mere three months into seeing a new suitor.

Since you've already made some grave mistakes here (dating a 20 y.o., getting her pregnant) all you can really do is wait for her brain to develop fully and hope that as a truly grown adult she understands that kids do better when their parents are together. Unfortunately you can't rewind the clock and choose a more appropriate partner nor take more rational means in terms of birth control.

It's always easier to blame other people than to recognize that you're in a dysfunctional relationship. The problem here isn't these friends but is rather your boyfriend (and you, because it takes two to cock things up this badly).

Unless you referring to her as your "GF" was a typo you're a true masochist if you try to stay with this person. This woman is evil and cruel. Save yourself and get far, far away from her.

This is square peg/round hole territory. If your girlfriend is of a monogamous nature it's always going to be a problem for her that you're sleeping with other people. This is not a failing on her part, this is her orientation. The bottom line is that if you're truly poly, which you may not even know for sure yet as what you describe isn't classic "polyamory", you can't date monogamous people. What you're having now is just a one-sided open relationship. If you truly want polyamory you need to have it with other polyamorous people (wherein both you and they have other committed partners).

At least you're recognizing this now and not after she's moved in and bankrupted you. You obviously can't already plan on marrying someone you've never even dated in person (meaning lived in the same city and seen each other IRL all the time). So maybe tell her that she's welcome to move in but only once she's prepared to cover half of the bills. 30% is too low a bar if your goal is to make her prioritize and be responsible. For better or worse, a serious relationship is as much about mutual responsibility as it is about love. You can love someone to death but if they can't pull their own weight it won't work. Keep an open mind about this because if she never gets her act together you need to be willing to break up.

You've surely both changed a lot since you were 13 and you've just possibly grown into people who are no longer compatible. You might try to couples counseling. But very few childhood romances go the distance and this is why.

Never be so obsessed with sex that you use that as the measuring stick for all of human behavior. Of course one gets with a hookup sooner than they do with someone they actually care about, because if you don't build some trust first then sex with them becomes just a hookup. Unless she told you she was a virgin when you started dating she hasn't really done anything wrong here. You worry too much about what other people think.

You're 20 and you've been dating this guy you're physically (but apparently not emotionally) attracted to for roughly 90 days. Ask yourself if you think it would be a good investment to spend a lot of money getting married under these circumstances. If you see the chance for a real relationship here you should tell him that when you're 25 and you've been together for at least a few years that would be the time to talk about getting married. Of course he doesn't want to go into debt staging a wedding for a marriage that's certain to end in divorce.

Sure, you can leave for that reason if you so choose. But if you're currently in treatment for a rage disorder and impulse control issues you'd probably be better off being single for a while anyway. It can be difficult to delve deeply into yourself and try to figure out why you are as you. That process is often easier if you're not at the same time having to worry about a romantic partner's wellbeing and such. Take some time and focus on yourself so you can get better.

Maybe schedule a call with "Liz" and tell her everything you've had the gall to put into print here. Once she knows you regard her as an overweight colonizer who isn't as pretty as you are it'll be a lot easier for her to mend her heart and move on. All anyone can say here is that you reap what you sow. So good luck with everything.

Try to unpack this. If she still shares custody with this ex then it's in the best interest of that agreement for her to include him in the kids' activities. Isolating him from the kids would give him cause to challenge her for sole custody. If the guy makes threats then it's time to call the police. It is a breach of trust to gossip to mutual friends about your situation. This is why both of you - and probably the kids too - should be in ongoing family/marriage counseling. It's normal to need someone to talk to but since it's egregious to burden friends with this stuff (and humiliate your spouse in this way) it's essential to have a professional involved. Everyone in this scenario needs therapy. You can't control what this ex does and doesn't do, but you can control your own environment by making use of the standard mechanisms for managing past relationship baggage and ongoing difficulties. It's just never okay to air someone else's dirty laundry to their friends. Save your marriage by finding the appropriate venue for discussing your grievances.

She's not wrong that parents never get a day off. That's just what you sign up for when have a child. But if your wife needs naps during the day because she's up at night with your toddler it could be a sign that your one year-old hasn't been properly sleep trained. A 12 month old should be able to sleep through the night. So maybe work on that. If your wife could sleep at night she wouldn't need naps and likely wouldn't be so grumpy as she adjusts to the reality that parenting is a 24/7 job.

The only "commitment" that really carries any weight is marriage. Even engagement is just a state of mind that can be broken at any moment without legal entanglement. Unless at some future point you two can live in the same city (not the same apartment, that would only come later after dating each other IRL for a while) it's pointless to talk about "committing". You just don't know each other well enough yet for any of that. It's very easy to present your finer points in an LDR. You won't know enough to put you credit/finances into each other's hands until you've been in the position to date in person for a significant period of time. Maybe find a diplomatic way to let her know that she's rushing things (and also that a verbal agreement is irrelevant).

First know that getting so enraged that you lash out physically at someone is by definition an impulse control problem. This isn't normal nor acceptable regardless of (what you might feel is) verbal provocation. It sounds like she's got the same problem. These things don't fix themselves and if you're self medicating with drugs you're only making your mental illness worse. Both of you need some intensive therapy (and possibly medication). Go get some help before you wind up in prison.

If you're still together next year maybe don't be so vociferous about not wanting anything. Apparently you rebuffed her offers to get you something (twice) and she took you at your word. She probably didn't even hear you ask for a card. There are enough people out there who hate birthdays that she likely just assumed you didn't want to be reminded of yet another trip around the sun.

After three years together he should know that you take even this non marital "anniversary" seriously. So even if he thinks it's silly he should at least recognize that it's important you. These are the compromises we're supposed to make when we're in a relationship. So now you know that he doesn't prioritize sentimentality. But the truth is you've probably known that for a while now. All you can really do is decide if the positives he brings to the relationship outweigh what you perceive as the negatives. Once the bad eclipses the good there's not much to do but consider ending the relationship.

It's not uncommon for patients to "fall in love" with their doctors and this is even more of a factor in the mental health field. Most of the time physicians can maintain their professional composure and they're trained in how to handle these situations. But it sounds like she finally reached her limit and has allowed your persistence to break her patience. She should probably take a vacation to regain her ability to cope with this kind of thing.

This wasn't just a "friends to lovers" scenario but a coworkers to f*ck buddies situation. The reality is that he's not going to date you or even commit to being FWBs. It would be best for you to find a different job so you can finally get him out of your system and move on.

Your standards for eating during pregnancy are far more restrictive than average and so you should have mentioned this before you got there. If your husband isn't prescient you should have prepared him that you'll only eat a very limited menu and that he should notify his parents to have something on hand that you'd be willing to consume. To wait until you got there and expect people to have read your mind is a bit extra. Most people aren't super comfortable around their in-laws, that's normal. But if you're going to be on such a strict diet you need to let people know (before you show up at their house). Next time maybe just bring your own food so this doesn't become an issue.

Unless you're citing this as the reason you're breaking up with him it's probably pointless to say anything. It's not like he's going to stop doing it just because you ask him. There's a social disconnect in people willing to publicly exhibit their lust like this. It's a personality type, not just an annoying habit.

One of the mandatories a couple has to do before moving in together is to put their financials on the table and create a budget. If she's living paycheck to paycheck but can still afford to fund half of a domestic situation with you that's one thing. But if her intention is to go back to school and have you support her that's clearly a nonstarter. So you'll have to sit down and talk about this, including every detail of her debt to income ratio and how she'd be able to pull her own weight. How to "broach the subject" is to just tell her that living together is a business arrangement as much as a step forward in the relationship. It's simply not something you can do without knowing for certain that she'll be able to pay her fair share of everything in the household.

Be careful, you're about to over analyze this relationship to death. When you expect too much of someone and they know they can't deliver their impulse is usually to just cut ties. You'd probably benefit from some talk therapy.

You and this guy may just not be a great match. Your family's predicament is not his fault and if he lives in a functional nation it's not for you to try to undermine him. Let him go be happy. Find yourself a revolutionary in your own country and maybe the two of you can get something started there.